Well not to be mean but It happened that way becouse it dosent sound like you followed the rulessoulds like youve been cling him instead of dating other guys.

if you want this to have a chance in hell (andi think its not worth it by the way) then you have to stop EVERYTHNIG.when you feel a man pull away you pull away even farther if he dosent come running RIGHT AWAY hes just not that into you And if he does follow you but only until your gicing him atention.hes not that into you ( hes into himself) if you conront him hes just gong to tell you hes too buissy with school and work and stuff right now to get involved wich means hes not into you. bottom like hes notinto! BUT all is not lost.use him to practice walking away on! stp calling stop awnsering nd accept a new date with a guy who may or may not be the right one if he calls you dont call back until the next day and tell him you were out and didnt want to be rude by awnsering the phone. and when he suddenly seems interested again tell him he had a week and a half to act and your just not convinced anymore.and next time dont exchange emails endlesslythey nly set you and him up for dissapointment. 3 good lengh chats where you get the important information.then he should ask you out ask for his number call him ( keep it to 15 minutes or less) tell him you cant talk for liong your on your way out set up the date place and time and meet him.

If not the chemistry you "feel" is the false one you 2 create while endlessly chatting and romantisizing! If he dosnet ask you out after 3 chats stop saying hi when you log in if he doset ask for a second date while on the first one- dont expect for him to call, and if he dosent do tose things dispite your showing interest in him then you shouldnt do it either!

Men will say what you want to hear becouse they want to be nice even if they are not feeling you all that much.but they wont act..actions are way louder than words.

YOu keep saying dispide the Advice and "i wish i could" but the truth is either you like to be a victem or your just not ready to make a change in the way you do things..but the information is all thereim happy to awnser your questions but if your not following it, or doing what youve alwyas done ..your only get what you have always gotten...

Im bAAACK! LOL Ok so where was I?...<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Ok back to the pictures and profile…This for me is always the hardest part because (as you can see) I have a lot to say about everything and can easily write a profile longer than this response! Lol … Truth is as much as I like to read lots of details about a cute guy…most guys cant focus for that long. Not to mention, when it comes to online dating people form opinions very quickly and being too specific can easily be misinterpreted. That having been said make sure you give enough info about yourself and what your looking for to let people see you have a personality, know what you want, and are confident enough to find it.
This formula worked very well for me:
“About me” first and “about him” second
About me:
3 or 4 of my best personality traits (open minded, warm, passionate about life, health conscious etc)
3 or 4 things I do or would like to try ( sports: I train in Brazilian jiu-jitsu and mixed martial arts and like to make a day of watching football on Sundays, makeup artistry, fine dining and road trips)
While there are many wonderful and interesting things about you try to differentiate between what a guy will be interested in and what girls will be interested in. Stick to the hobbies and interests that you may share with a guy that would interest you.
I put all this information into one paragraph that will describe me just enough to get a broad interest going but enough room for a little mystery. Most importantly I cover a good variety about myself witch will prevent me from being excluded by those who are more particular about what they are looking for.


About him:
This part is easy, and should be a lot shorter and more general. Don’t bother with the physical attributes because the pics and meeting them in person are the only way to really know! Thathaving been said try for 3 or 4 things that are non negotiable as far as personality like: affectionate, polite, outgoing, honest, likes to laugh etc. Instead of listing the qualities try describing them…like someone I can count on to make me laugh at all the right times (reliable and humorous)or someone who can teach me how to throw a foot ball(active) etc.
Remember to focus on what you’re looking for and keep what your not looking for to yourself!

The more pics the better but if all the pics you have are the same ( all head shots all taken the same night all doing pretty much the same thing etc) then use one good headshot and one good body shot. Do your hair and makeup to look polished but NATURAL smile or laugh and dress for fashion and comfort. Too trendy or to casual will leave you stereotyped. Otherwise pick a variety of shots some face some from the waist up and other full body…again, choose pics of yourself at different locations engaging in different activities The more sides of yourself you show the more people you will appeal to.

Finally I suggest coming up with a series of questions that are important to you….just don’t ask them all at once but DO ask them all before you meet in person. If I want to make sure we like have the same lifestyle <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Ill ask him his favorite food and his favorite restaurant! If he says he never eats out because its too expensive Ill know that he’s either cheap, broke, one hell of a chef, or has no appreciation for fine dining…If he says he’s favorite food is pizza Ill know he hasn’t gotten out too much or diversified in the f&b;department (for me this is a major turn off).

Another one I love to ask: Where have you traveled and where would you like to go…now Believe it or not Id ask this question long before I had visited many places myself lol but in doing so I was able to meet with men who had seen the world, were excited about it, and wanted to share it with me…Actually I dated a guy long term who took me to many places! My current bf hasn’t left Canada or even seen to much outside of Montréal…but he’s excited and motivated by my love of travel and has a serious interest in seeing a lot of different places. I don’t mind that he’s not well traveled but I would mind if he had no interest in the world beyond his own backyard…Get my point?
Find the things that matter to you in a long term partner and find a non judgmental or obvious way of asking it! Then ask it again later (more directly) and see if the answers add up. Make sure you refer back to your saved conversations (yes save all your conversations on msn) for the first couple months this way if he’s lying to you about anything, you’ll be able to catch him before you fall too hard :).
Almost done…

Any you thought you had a lot to say! Lol Next time just add me to your facebook or send me your email or something! <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

Ok online dating advice

1) Make sure your profile is sending the right message and attracting the right people …make sure you have the right variety of pics

2) Follow my advice on attitude

3) Learn how to search efficiently- without excluding potential men:
This is important! Keep your searches vague, and you don’t even have to smile at people most sights have an option to see who’s viewed you!

4) Also Always respond to guys who interest you just a little -as well as those who interest you a lot: I say this because A LOT of people don’t express themselves well in writing or don’t know what to say etc SO…pay more attention to what there interests are weather they smoke etc if you have 3 or more things in common write back. ( I skipped over my boyfriend and he decided to contact me and I still wasent too impressed but I felt like flirting a bit…plus I liked that he was a chef lol)

5) don’t judge a book by its cover ignore what they write about themselves physically…its too subjective instead invite them to do a picture exchange after your first “chat” and politely ask where and when each pic was taken…BUT don’t be too harsh…most people Aren’t photogenic, my boyfriend is one of them…he had a cute profile we had a few a couple things a in common and to be honest look wise in his pics all he had going for him was hid dog and crazy biceps ..in person though he’s a handsome guy and he gets better looking in my eyes every day (he just asked me to move in with him by the way!!!!! Its been 8 months.)

3) Don’t ever worry too much about one guy your chatting with…Always have a few even if your not too hot on them but there nice because you never know who will shock you for better or for worst! Also it helps to have to split up your attention. You being the loving, caring, amazing woman you are… you have a lot to give! So, spreading yourself a little thin can make a HUGE difference! Since we know that the problem is giving too much attention to ONE guy having more than one your getting to know gives you less time for any one of them by default! Your not PLAYING hard to get! You ARE!

5) So make an msn just for chatting with guys and give it out to anyone who qualifies for conversation….this way when you log in you’ll have lots of guys on at the same time…just block every one but the top 3 at any given time so you can keep up…when one logs off or turns out to be a bum block him and unblock the next in line!

I have to run but Im not done stay tooned

WOW am I ever late on this answer! So sorry but it seems the alert went to my junk mail! Anyhow I wanted to make sure I could take the time to really answer your questions and give you as many pointers as I- so here goes!

1st of all- You’re beautiful! And the sooner you realize that (and acknowledge the power that holds for you- the better) A lot of people don’t like that mentality, but the truth is there are A LOT of options in the man department for beautiful women and to ignore that reality is taking what you have for granted...a habit that DOES NOT encourage confidence.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

That having been said, there are dozens of eligible and great guys who are ready willing and able to give you everything you deserve. But keep in mind that the good ones will only be wowed by a pretty face for so long...so make sure the personality matches the smile.

By personality I don’t mean being Marsha F*&king;Brady by the way….A lot of women think they have to bend over backwards in order to be considered "nice" or show a guy how great they are! They think the more they give of themselves the more attractive they become! AND THERE RIGHT! They become targets...FOR guys who are inclined to take as much as they can get!

Let me Rephrase that: I mean BE Marsha F*&king Brady lol. Think about it! Marsha always got the guy when her little sister Jan ( who if you look closely was also prettier in a less obvious way) spent her whole life being a doormat so guys would like her…but her plan of throwing her niceness at people never got her a boyfriend did it? The reality is with a little makeover to polish her up the little sister was the real catch! But MARSHA MARSHA MARSHA
knew how to get the right kind of attention…she knew she was hot property and never let anyone forget it! So you have the looks you have the personality…you just need an attitude adjustment!

I’m reiterating this because until you get it no amount of anything else is going to work....TRUST ME! If this was boot camp id be your drill sgt so get your ass in gear sister cuz the way you’re letting people treat you IS BULLSHIT!

Work on your view of relationships yourself and men NOW get a reality check and a makeover and start prepping the new you for spring! By summer you’ll have your pick of the litter and by fall you’ll be confident enough to let them ALL go if they don’t measure upJ witch feels FREAKING GREAT BY THE WAY! It’s a liberating kind of frustration to know that you’re single because you truly chose to be not cuz you’ve tried your best and it didn’t work out….AGAIN.


If you want more details on how to change your attitude let me know and well talk. I’ve done it and I know it works- but it was a lifetime struggle for me so if I can cut your heartache short it would be my pleasure to spare you. I’ve read all the books, ignored all the right advice, made excuse’s for my actions and the actions of the men in my life, Just rest assured: there are tips and tricks and formulas and signs and proven plans of action you can take. SERIOUSLY JUST ASK...


Remember this before you respond to another message:


NO one makes you drop everything to hang out with them...they prove to YOU how interesting THEY are make YOU want to know more about THEM to see if your really interested. And YOU chose to fit them into your schedule. Then they do it all over again until they have you convinced there worth a little more effort and before you know it they are trying to put you in the bag- so they don’t have to share you with anyone…because they know that if your know fully there’s…you MAY become someone else’s…and they could never live with that.

Practice new tricks on olds dogs :Once you’ve screwed up and given too much of yourself to a guy and you know it ( you start to feel neglected, or it seems like he’s loosing interest or you feel insecure or are wondering when hell call etc)then Its too late to make anything good of it. A guy will only REALLY change his mind for a new woman who demands it of him from the start ( otherwise, he already knows what he can get away with and while he may play with you for a bit to see if he can get you back- its still just a game for him!)

BUT!!!!! screw-up like these prove to make great test subjects for a new attitude or approach for dealing with men. And they give you the chance to build confidence in your new way of doing things and fine tune your new dating habits without risking a potential love! Its also no big deal if you slipup because you’ve already determined he’s not good enough lmao.. (When ever I’ve ended a relationship and get a bit desperate for attention as I reenter the dating seen- I always find a test subject to get the ball rolling…now this is not a nice guy I toy with- it’s a not so nice guy who’s trying to use me that I keep around but refuse to give into …for practice! lol - this was how I saw the light)

If you’ve been single this long you can clearly see you don’t NEED a man...you WANT a man. So one to the next part: choosing the ones who are worth your time to get to know…
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