I want to do it, but I'm scared...


Nessie
on Jan 18, 2008 @ 09:23 am


My hair is way too long. And I want to cut it. I have made an appointment for myself
for next week. I typically have 1 haircut per year, as I can't afford many cuts, they always charge me lots because of how long it is (and it is so thick it takes them an hour to blow dry and straighten). But I have been telling myself for years now that I am going to do a big cut and donate the hair to charity for people going through cancer. My best friend has alopecia and I told her if she ever lost all her hair I would shave mine off for a wig for her. Well, she has been bald for a few yeas now, and although she does not wear a wig and does not want to (all the power to you love!), I still want to keep my promise and donate my hair in her name. My hair is now down to the small of my back - MizzRobin and Cinnamon know how long it is! The only problem is I have never, in my adult life, had short hair! I had it cut to shoulder length when i was 19, but that is the shortest it has been since I have become a woman! I know this is vanity and it is silly - hair grows back - but I feel like it is my thing, Nessie is the girl with long dark hair. How do I not identify who I am with my hair length?

Also, has anyone on here done this before? I am looking into places to donate. The less I have to take off the better - I know that sounds horrid, but I am afraid of short hair! Pantene's website accepts 8 inches. The only place here in London requires 12 inches (phew!). Any other places to send to???

Nessie
 

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mamaluv
Locks of Love on Jan 18, 2008 @ 10:34 am

Locks of Love makes hairpieces for children with diseases. They need 10 inches and it must be in a ponytail before it's cut (and sent wrapped in elastics in ponytail form). Check out their website at locksoflove.org. You simply pop it in the mail and that's it!

I was the girl with the long blond hair - it went below my belt line. I cut it just to see what I'd look like without it, since I'd never worn it short in my whole life. I know exactly what you mean, that you'd feel naked and not like yourself without your luscious locks! It took me a little while to get used to it, but then I kept it short(ish) for years.

If you can afford it, go to a well-recommended stylist and pay the extra money. A talented hairdresser will be able to recommend a flattering cut for your face shape and hair texture. You might even like it better! I have grown mine out again, though not as long as before (I don't think I'll go back to that, it was unpractical), and experiment all the time with different cuts. It's fun!

I know it sounds unsympathetic, but it's only hair and it will grow back. In the meantime, enjoy your extreme makeover!
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Feisty Redhead
my "policy" on Jan 18, 2008 @ 11:17 am

My own personal policy on cutting hair (especially when you're talking about such a big cut!) is if there's any doubt whatsoever, don't do it. I also follow a "two week rule" - I wait two weeks and see how I feel about it at the end of that time before I do anything.

Locks Of Love is a VERY controversial thing actually and I am not sure I'd recommend donating to them. If you go to LHC (The Long Hair Community) and do a little reading up there you will see what I mean. There are surely other, better places to donate your hair if you do decide that this is what you want to do. LHC could probably recommend good places to donate if you ask there.
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spotty
controversy? on Jan 18, 2008 @ 11:28 am

What's the controversy concerning Locks of Love? I tried to search on the LHC board, but it appears I have to join ...
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MizzRobin
Ness... on Jan 18, 2008 @ 11:33 am

don't do it...if there is any doubt in your mind! Since I know you personally I would say my vote is don't cut it! You have your sis's wedding coming up also!

Anyway, if you still want to cut it, I think donating it would be a great idea. If you want I can look into places for you. Just send me an email and let me know!
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Feisty Redhead
LoL on Jan 18, 2008 @ 12:18 pm

About LoL...

- Their stated purpose is to make wigs for alopecia sufferers, but news stories and talk shows say the wigs are for children with cancer who lose their hair to chemo. This gets more human interest from their audiences. But chemo patients are generally better served medically and functionally with synthetic wigs, and many are more comfortable with turbans or caps. Most children with cancer prefer not to wear wigs. The organization seems to make no effort to correct the misconception about who gets the wigs.

- They make far fewer wigs than the number of ponytails they collect would supply, and seem to have no valid explanation for this disparity.

- The Better Business Bureau has found them not to be totally compliant in following proper procedures for administering a charity.

- Locks of Love has publicly acknowledged that they have ample supplies of hair, but they make no effort to switch their solicitations to cash rather than more hair. All they seem to want is for more and more people to cut off their hair. This seems to be much more important to the press, the organization, and its proponents than the wig making.


- Most of the donated hair does NOT wind up on a child's head. It is sold to commercial wigmakers who are selling their wigs to models, celebrities, etc., or sits in a warehouse.


Some links to check out:

http://charityreports.bbb.org/Public/Report.aspx?CharityID=1839
http://www.give.org/reports/care2_dyn.asp?733
http://www.charitynavigator.org/index.cfm?bay=search.summary&orgid=9285
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locks_of_Love
http://www.squidoo.com/locksoflove
http://www.onmilwaukee.com/family/articles/locksforlove.html
http://badhairday.typepad.com/bad_hair_day/2006/07/locks_of_love_i.html

And that is just a very small handful of info; if you do a wee bit of your own searching on the net there's plenty more.

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mamaluv
Yikes! on Jan 18, 2008 @ 01:04 pm

Thanks Feisty, for this information. I have only seen LoL praised on makeover shows, so had no idea about this back story. Even if the suspicions turn out not to be true, it's always a good idea to inform yourself about any charity you choose to support.

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hunter_jc
No need to cut it all on Jan 19, 2008 @ 10:00 am

You should look into a cool short hair look. If you have a trusted hair stylist then you shouldn't be worried at all. The only problem is that short hair need more maintainance. I mean you tend to need to go to the stylist more to keep it looking good.
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Nessie
sigh on Jan 19, 2008 @ 02:23 pm


well my mom says I wouldn't look good with short hair, because it is so poofy. Being a mixed child makes my hair nothing like either of my parents, so just because my mom looks good with short hair doesn't mean I will. My sister agrees it will puff right out and be frizzy beyond belief.

However I have measured my hair, and taking off 12 inches will put my hair to my shoulders, which shouldn't be so bad...I can handle it...I just want lovely long hair again for the wedding...maybe I should wait more...but I am definitely taking off a bunch...

Thanks for all the advice. And what is with these charities?! Geez, you would think they of all people would want good things for anyone with problems, regardles off age or condition. It saddens me....
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MizzRobin
Yey Ness! on Jan 20, 2008 @ 08:19 pm

I agree wait on cutting it because your hair will get curly (humidity) when we are in the islands as well and that will make it even shorter and fuller! As for the charity stuff, yeah just do your research first! :o)
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Cinnamon82
Looking good! on Jan 24, 2008 @ 07:20 pm

Your haircut looks great! It's not too short which is good, and the layers will keep it from getting too poofy. Take it from your "poofier-than-thou" sister ;)

I'm all for paying good money for a good haircut. I remember being in university and being totally sick of my hair one day while studying in a hot lab. So on a break I ran down to the cheapo campus hair cutters and they charged $20 and all they did (literally) was put my hair in a ponytail then cut the tail off! I had to pay an extra $40 to get my ugly do fixed. Whata ripoff!
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