Bachelor & Bachelorette Parties

on May 08, 2007 @ 05:24 pm

I have a friend who has recently gone to 2 different bachelor parties, both of which ended up in some serious injuries and/or unfaithful choices/actions. I have a really hard time understanding why men and women go to such extremes to celebrate their last 'symbolic' evening of single-hood.

To me, I will marry b/c I want to be w/ that one person for the rest of my life. I don't worry "OMG, I'll never be w/ another person ever again!". Like, isn't that the point of marriage!? If you worry about that, then perhaps marriage isn't for you. I can appreciate getting together for a fun hooorah w/ your friends, but I don't understand the camp of "gettin' some" in your final days before marriage. That's plain gross and hurtful.

Do some of you have a different approach to the topic? I'd like to hear other opinions to help me get a better grasp on why some folks get out of control.

16 Replies

Ali de Bold
That's horrible on May 08, 2007 @ 07:01 pm

Spotty, I totally agree. When you become engaged you've already made a commitment to that person and using your bachelor party as an excuse to violate that is extremely immature and selfish.

If the guy thinks that just because it is his bachelor party it doesn't count as cheating then he is not ready for commitment of any kind and should remain single until he is. That goes for women who do the same thing.

Goodness on May 08, 2007 @ 07:27 pm

Yea really, I don't understand why people go out and do this.

Like don't people care about how hurt/angry your spouse would be if he/she ever found out? And don't people guilty at all about making stupid choices the night before your marriage?

I have never been to a bachelor/bachelorette party.., none of my friends or myself are really old/ready/mature enough for that yet. The only crazy bachelor/rette parties I have seen are on t.v. and in movies. In fact, I have a hard imagining that people actually do that in real life! But I do know better...

Marriage is about trust, love and commitment. What I don' t understand is why people have to ruin it before it even starts...

Disgusting on May 09, 2007 @ 12:37 pm

If you're going to marry someone, then to me that means you are committed to them, and only them, and using your bachelor/bachelorette party to celebrate your last night of 'freedom' by hooking up with someone else is disgusting and selfish. Marriage does not mean giving up your freedom! It means making a committment to someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe I'm just really old-fashioned, but it seems to me like so many people (men and women) are promiscuous these days, thinking that having a string of shallow flings is better than being with one person forever, or if they do decide to be with one person, they'll end up cheating on them. I believe that when in you're in a relationship with someone, or married, you should only be with that person, not out looking for what you can get on the side. And, like spotty said, if someone is too immature to realize all the great things that come from marriage, well, they obviously are not ready to be married.

You read my mind on May 10, 2007 @ 10:08 am

I agree with all of you. My husband's b-party was his opportunity to get snodding drunk with the boys and "not have to" answer to me one last time, but as far as I know (!) that's all that happened. My girlfriends' parties have been similar, just cocktails all night long and crazy girl time. Nothing worth regretting, a last chance to really let it out before you have to get a little more serious and take family finances into consideration when you blow that kind of money. Nothing sexual EVER. In fact, I hope that if I were ever at a party where that sort of thing was going on, I would leave.

Martha Lilian
It all depends on the company that you keep! on Jun 04, 2007 @ 12:06 pm

I really think that it depends on the guy and his friends. My boyfriend has been to at least 5 bachelor parties and nothing has ever happened, aside from drinking entirely too much and indulging in steak dinners and perhaps a trip to the strip club. (I am okay with the strip club thing, btw. I know many woman are in disagreement with me on this one.) For the husband-to-be, it was just one last chance to blow off some steam and ease those pre-wedding jitters. It was never an excuse to be unfaithful.

I have also attended bachelorette parties and have always had a great time. It was just a girls' night out. Dinner, drinks and just being silly.


it wasnt bad at all on Jan 18, 2008 @ 05:12 pm

my bfriend and i are close with a couple that is getting married nxt mnth.they both had their bachelor/bachelorette parties this past w.end and it was great!it was clean on both guys n gals side:)iv never known anyone who actually went out and shocks me!its meant to be a fun night for both the bride and groom to be

bachelor on Mar 09, 2016 @ 04:07 pm

Been around for years. I'm sure if a gal or guy has a problem he/she should tell their mate and discuss it first. That way you can find out a lot about what your married life could be like eg': cheating etc.Actually, it is an old custom that probably will always be out there, after all it's only one night.Remember he/she most likely has had more than one sexual partner before. so what's one more? Do not mean to offend. Just my opinion.

I dunno... on Mar 09, 2016 @ 04:11 pm

I respectfully disagree with your "what's one more", Dollysgramma. Sexual partners before you are in a committed relationship are a COMPLETELY different story than "one more" when you are getting married.
If I found out my fiance cheated before the wedding, I don't know that I could go through with the wedding.

. on Mar 19, 2016 @ 11:14 pm

For some, these parties are somewhat a dress rehearsal before marriage and can be a window to some would deal with temptation. For those who are mature and mutually respectful of each other, these parties are simply a get-together with your closest and best friends for a fun and clean night out.

. on Mar 19, 2016 @ 11:16 pm

or some, these parties are somewhat a dress rehearsal before marriage and can be a window to how some would deal with temptation. For those who are mature and mutually respectful of each other, these parties are simply a get-together with your closest and best friends for a fun and clean night out.

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