BOOK CLUB: Claire's attraction to Will

on Sep 27, 2009 @ 11:19 am

Time to start our next book discussion!

Part of Claire’s attraction to Will is that he allows her to be someone
different than she had always been. Have you ever been drawn to a
person or a situation because it offered you the opportunity to
reinvent yourself?

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Interesting question.... on Sep 29, 2009 @ 10:07 am

I don't know if I've ever been in the situation where I have reinvented myself. I've been on uncomfortable blind dates and was not myself at all. But I don't think that counts.

I think Claire was more herself with Will than with her own husband! That marriage was strained, to say the least. Will was an outlet for Claire to let loose and be more open. However, she was still restrained in her manner with Will. She didn't speak up when things bothered her. She seemed to avoid conflict so she wouldn't upset Will.

Perhaps, (and I'm just thinking out loud here) we ALL change, just a little, depending on the person(s) we associate with. Not always negatively... just slight change, depending on who we are with. For example, if you are around someone who doesn't share the same sense of humour as you, perhaps you hold back on you normally sarcastic wit. That doesn't mean you are not being yourself, but you are also not being someone you are not. We adapt to our situations, so is it so different to "adapt" to the people we are with?


reinvention? not quite... on Sep 30, 2009 @ 12:12 pm

I agree with Patricia that I have never truly reinvented myself. I have, however, made conscious efforts to change certain personality traits as I grew up and matured - which were influenced by those around me.

Case in point: I was always a painful introvert growing up. When I switched to a new high school in tenth grade I quickly realized that if I wanted to have any friends at all, I would have to push my boundaries. I eventually found a best friend, whose extrovert nature forced me to keep up or be an inconsequential wallflower.

Now, when people ask about my youth and I tell them this, they cannot believe it. Yet, I still struggle in new situations. I sometimes have to "psych myself up" when I'm meeting new people or networking/schmoozing. It does not come naturally, and at times my discomfort manifests itself as social awkwardness when I run out of steam.

However, had I never forced myself to change I would probably never have married my husband (who just happens to be the brother of my best friend!). He is very social and would not have been attracted to a mouse as I was.

If anything, I now have to rely on my past to keep me out of situations where I might overshare or otherwise make an idiot of myself. Mark Twain said "It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." Darn right :)

i might want to but havent succeeded thus far.. on Oct 08, 2009 @ 02:27 pm

Ive tried to reinvent myself, I even moved across country from boston to san francisco… but I don’t think ive been able to do it. Sometimes other people think so, like my mother lol. I did used to make friends with more extroverted people, because I was drawn to how opposite they were to me (I'm very quiet!), but in the end that usually doesn’t work too well. My best friend now calls himself a hermit. I DO go to random events and places… just to kind of expand my horizons and so I'm not sitting at home. But I don’t think that I have changed or been reinvented from those experiences. I can understand why claire would want to do this, but I would not cheat in order to do it. Also, I don’t think she was herself with will she did seem to tiptoe around him. I think at the end (SPOILER IF YOU DIDN’T FINISH READING IT) she had succeeded in reinventing herself more, but that was more all by herself.

@patricia I do think youre right though we probably do all change depending on who we're with. I can be myself with close friends, but at work, im not going to say/do the same stuff, and theres groups of people I know that I couldn’t say/do things because theyd be shocked and horrified lol.


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