on Dec 07, 2014 @ 08:01 pm|
My parents have been dead almost 25 years now and I still miss them. I envy people who have their parent (s) still alive. I have heard people say they were not close, that they always fight or they drive them crazy. Know what? I would rather have them here driving me crazy then not having them here to talk to. How about you?
|agreed on Dec 08, 2014 @ 09:50 am|
I definitely agree. My dad passed away from cancer 4 years ago and not a day goes by where I don't miss him. I didn't have a close emotional connection with him, but at the same time I did feel close to him and we enjoyed doing a lot of the same things. My favourite memories are the times when we'd go and pick out some new plants and flowers for the garden and then we'd plant them together later. My mom is alive, but she lives 3 hours away and she's engaged to someone else for the last 2 years or so. So sometimes I feel like I don't have any family. My brother is 8 hours away and we only stay in touch through his awesome wife who texts me a lot.
|Do You Stay In Contact With Your Parents on Dec 08, 2014 @ 01:05 pm|
It is tough when a parent lives far away and also goes on with their lives. Send cards for special occasions even if your mom doesn't stay connected. It will keep you reappearing in her thoughts and perhaps will make her keep closer contact. Thank God for the outlaws of the family. (That is what my brothers call their inlaws) I have a brother in BC and I send cards and letters a couple of times a year and he emails me back when he gets them. I have 3 others that live about 40 minutes from here. We usually get together as a family at Christmas time. I get together with my eldest brother and his family more often.
|re on Dec 08, 2014 @ 01:32 pm|
My mom is involved in my life and helps out a lot. Especially with the new baby coming, she's helped me out more than my husband's parents who are better off financially and live close by. She's got her faults, but she's the best mom I could have asked for if we had a say in that sort of thing :) It just really sucks she's so far away. And I've never been close to my brother, but it still would be nice to see him more often than once a year.
I'm not too close to my inlaws. His parents are split and they both have partners. His dad really likes me, his mom is... well, she's your stereotypical mother-in-law.
|My father is passed on Dec 08, 2014 @ 02:44 pm|
But I talk steady to my mom who lives 400km away.... I couldn't imagine not talking, even if mad at each other.
I am also very close to both of my in-laws. They are my parents when my parents cannot be there.
|Depends on Dec 08, 2014 @ 02:50 pm|
I'm really close to my mother and can't imagine my life without her but as for my father... well he is a drunk, when he was still with my mother he use to beat her and cheat on her, he beat me as well... he never acted like he cared about me and even chocked me once for not wanting to eat his spaghetti sauce. He is an alcoholic, evil, hateful man and I haven't spoken to him in years... I don't miss him and wouldn't care if he dropped dead tomorrow... that's one funeral I won't be attending.
|for sure on Dec 08, 2014 @ 02:55 pm|
It definitely does depend on how you were treated by your parents or other family members as to whether or not you'd want to stay in contact with them. It's one thing to argue all the time in the way your typical family does, but it's a totally different thing to have to suffer from abuse or neglect. Onimiki, I'm glad you're close to your mother and you at least have that relationship.
|Do You Stay In Contact With Your Parents on Dec 08, 2014 @ 07:04 pm|
Fredamans, it is wondeerful you have your mom to talk to. I had wonderful in-laws as well and they helped a lot with comfort and advise.
|Onimiki on Dec 08, 2014 @ 07:07 pm|
Having a parent with any kind of addition is awful and adding in the physical abuse makes it worse. You are so lucky to have your mom. Even now I still wish she was here to talk to.
Take care of yourself
|I'm the Oddball... on Dec 31, 2014 @ 10:17 pm|
My parents were very abusive, when I was young. However, I haven't spoken to them since I ran away from home (25 years ago), and they've been kind enough not to interrupt me.
My fiance, on the other hand, was raised by WONDERFUL parents. Unfortunately, we lost his dad, last year. However, we still visit his mother, every week or two.
|Dear Oddball on Jan 01, 2015 @ 09:39 pm|
You are not odd at all. In fact, that you are able to have a normal relationship with someone and care about his parents on top of that is an indication that you have a strong character. Some people allow themselves to be victims all their lives and are not able to have normal relationships
Good for you.
Happy New Year to you and yours.