Bullying


Tracyr
on Apr 01, 2016 @ 01:28 pm

We always hear about bullying at school ,but what I would like to know is has anyone on ChickAdvisor ever been bullied in the work place,I haven't myself but my friend has and I think it's terrible ,What is everyone else's opinion on this ?
 

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coultlee
. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 01:39 pm

I was when I first started the job I am in now. It was one staff member and a boss that continually harassed/bullied. I was new and it was u real. I have worked for this company almost a total of 30 years now and 3 yrs till I retire. Can hardly wait.
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RaeBlair
. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 01:43 pm

Absolutely. Not just myself, but almost every co-worker, friend, and family member that I know has at least one incident where they were the target of workplace bullying or harassment.

It's astonishing. You think that, as you grow, you'll experience it lesser and lesser... but that seems to be the opposite. I would even hardly call it bullying past a certain age and go right on to say that it is, plain and simply, harassment.

I had two managers at my old workplace who would consistently torment myself and a couple of other employees while abusing their power. They were a couple, just above middle-aged, low-income, and had a lot of personal struggles. They were unhappy people, and this lead them to be workplace bullies. I feel as if this is the source of most of these issues - unhappiness with work or home life in the bully. I quit after about a year and a half of it, and they were both recently fired by the owner of the venue after frequent labour board complaints.

It's the worst when it's your superior. It really comes down to your job or your mental health/dignity in that case, which can be life-shattering.
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KrissiC
Unacceptable on Apr 01, 2016 @ 02:55 pm

My mother is encountering this right now and it's awful. They try to make you feel as though your jobs at stake if you report it. Wish I could help her.
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Tracyr
. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 03:06 pm

Awe Ladies ,that's terrible no one should have to suffer like that ,it shouldn't be allowed in the work place
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coultlee
. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 03:14 pm

When it's a boss that is doing it unless it gets reported and followed thru they keep on. I was new and a good paying job I tried for a couple years to get hired there. I finally stood up to her and things were different after that. Now if she sees me she is like a different person. She retired and moved away. I used to see her occasionally not much now.

It absolutely shouldn't be that's for sure.
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KrissiC
It's so awful on Apr 01, 2016 @ 03:23 pm

They are literally doing everything they can to try to make her feel uncomfortable and useless and I do believe that the new boss is trying to get her to quit. The new boss inherited the company from daddy and is a terrible, spiteful human being. I hate seeing my mom treated like this, she'd the kindest person who would give you her last dollar if you needed it. She's been there 25 years. I keep telling her contact the Labor Board and ask where to start. If anything, they can point her in the right direction.

Coultee - good for you! I'm glad you stood up for yourself. Everyone deserves respect and appreciation.
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prettyrainbow
. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 03:56 pm

I've gone through it in the past and I wish no one ever has to, but it's more and more common in the workplace nowadays. The funny thing is, I work with fellow people who should be role models in preventing bullying in the first place! Unfortunately, every basket can sometimes have a rotten bunch. In essence, we think it only happens amongst children, but adults are just the grown up version of them.

I started noticing the bullying/harassment from 2 other colleagues and it persisted for about a year and a half. They then got more people to start joining them in their gossip and it came to the point where I started avoiding eating lunch in the staff room and taking days off to try to avoid them completely. I then started to have anxiety attacks at work. This is when I realized I couldn't let them continue having power over me. I've since reported it and it was the best thing I've ever done for myself. My boss was very understanding, thankfully, and even admitted that others had complained about the initial 2 colleagues in the past. I was the only one who actually threatened to take it further to the board if it persisted.

I noticed this all started when I was appointed a position and a responsibility that was higher than theirs. Whether it was for jealous reasons or because they were afraid of having to take orders from me and show me their work, they began to intimidate me and criticize my every move. This is something that was constant - I'm talking every single day.

I finally decided to look after my health first and deal with the repercussions of speaking up later. I started keeping a log book and took notes of the time and date the bullying action occurred and exactly what was done and said to me. This also helped me decide whether it was indeed bullying or just a difference in opinions. I then got to the point where I firmly warned them that if they were to continue, they would be reported. I made sure to have the head of my union present when I did this. If you don't have this option, at least have another trusted colleague by your side, that way it won't be their word against yours. I then proceeded to report it after the behaviour happened again.

After I reported it, their mood changed drastically. I don't think they ever expected me to speak out. I'm the introverted, silent type, but if you're going to rock my boat, I won't take it lying down. I'm just disappointed that I let it drag on for so long. That's the only regret I have.

They since had one of those colleagues transferred to another school and apparently, more people spoke up after me, which helped move this process along.

If anyone is going through this, the best thing you can do for yourself is to speak up and report it. Bullies rely on you keeping quiet. They feed off of what they consider to be weakness. Don't let them win and have power over you. Also, understand that bullies have a very low sense of self-esteem. If they are harassing you, it has nothing to do with you as a person. The issues are all in their own heads. It's to seek power where they feel they have none.

Also, don't give them an audience either. Just walk away. Don't engage them in conversation. Just warn them in a direct manner and report it. If no one is there to listen to their comments and harassment, they no longer have any power. It's like they'll be talking to the wind. It takes a lot of strength, mind you, but it's the best thing in this situation.

I really feel for anyone who is going through this. I do hope it gets resolved very soon and that you think of your own health and wellbeing. Good luck!

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prettyrainbow
. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 03:57 pm

Here's some helpful information about bullying in the workplace, if anyone needs it:

https://www.ccohs.ca/oshanswers/psychosocial/bullying.html

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RaeBlair
prettyrainbow on Apr 01, 2016 @ 03:59 pm

Thanks for sharing that link!
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KrissiC
Orettyrainbow on Apr 01, 2016 @ 04:00 pm

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you were able to stand up for yourself and that you feel better. Thanks for that link as well!
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