on Feb 03, 2016 @ 08:24 am|
I listen to the news during supper and of course the Ghomeshi trial is top story and I am confused because now they came out that one of the Victim's sent him a photo of her laid out on a beach in a bikini one year after he attacked her , oh what is that about , I don' t want to judge but I would not send a man a picture of me after I was attacked by him , and the other witness that wenr out with him three times , the first time he pulled her hair hard , she said she got a bit scared but went out with him the 2ndtime and he was sweet because they were in a bar he did not attack her but the third time he attacked her , oulled her hair and hit her on the head 3 times now she was realy scared . I am not on his side because this guy does have some serious issues and I don't know if jail will help him I think he needs therapy , or doyou think that these ladies are out to gethim and some of the stories are not true or exagerated . I use to be kind of a fan of Ghomeshi I liked to listen to Q when i had time , I was really disappointed when the story came out . OK I hope my forum was not to long ?
|Who knows? on Feb 03, 2016 @ 10:01 am|
I heard about the story when it first came out but haven't been watching the news. My general opinion on the matter is that women (especially a group of women saying the same thing) do not make this stuff up. My ex bf of 8 years is a senior crown prosecutor and they typically don't take a case to trial if there isn't sufficient evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that the defendant is guilty on at least some of the charges. As a survivor of long standing sexual abuse I find it hard to comprehend people lie about this devastating ordeal. Then again it has happened before but at a small percentage. Most people don't even report it - it tends to be very shameful for the survivor. Especially making such claims against a well loved celebrity (think Bill Cosby ). So I can't say either way if I believe it or not but considering my own circumstances I find it hard to believe someone (and more than one person) would lie about the same thing. It will be exceedingly hard for them to go through since fans will tend to think he couldn't have done it because they "know him" even though their knowledge of him is only in the spotlight. They will feel shamed and have their personal lives on display.
Whatever the case, if he did it he should be punished and if he didn't then his career is basically ruined.
|@ Greekbymarriage on Feb 03, 2016 @ 12:41 pm|
Sorry to hear about your ordeal , I am not trying to say that these women are making this up I just find it strange to send a bikini clad picture and to go out again and again with a sicko who gets off with sexual violence . It's because some of the witnesses who testify their stories that might backfire and work in his favour , plus he looks like he has a really good lawyer , she must be a piece of work to those witnesses , I would not want to be cross examined by her .
|Tidy on Feb 03, 2016 @ 12:58 pm|
No need to apologize at all! Please don't think I took any offense whatsoever to your comment! I would feel horrible if you thought I was upset over your post :(
The thing is only the accused and the accuser know what happened and although rare to make up horrible stories like that, sometimes people do. I guess that's why it's innocent until proven guilty, right?
I know sometimes it's hard to tell the tone of a comment over social media so please don't ever think I was offended or upset. :)
And you're right, who knows if or why the girl sent the photo after the alleged event. I'm not following it so I don't know the particulars.
I think this is a great forum for discussing interesting topics and current events.
|@ Greekbymarriage on Feb 03, 2016 @ 01:06 pm|
I am not offended at all !!! It took me awhile to decide if I should write this forum or not because it has never happen to me and I did not want to hit a nerve with anyone in here . It was difficult just for me to write and I had to read it twice before I pressed send .
|Ghomeshi Trial on Mar 26, 2016 @ 11:13 pm|
|Who knows... on Mar 27, 2016 @ 12:27 am|
I'm not sure why she sent the photo. But, many victims of abuse be it physical, emotional or sexual, hang on to their abusers. They keep coming back. Perhaps these women were afraid of what would happen if they didn't keep contact for a while? Maybe they thought it'll never happen again or he just got carried away? Maybe they were suffering from very low self esteem and thought they'd take what they could get? I haven't been following it too closely but he does seem like kind of a messed up individual and he might benefit from counseling. I don't know why all of these women would lie about this I such a public manner.
|. on Mar 27, 2016 @ 02:00 am|
I've been following this since it came about. I used to listen to him before he was fired. And the thing that I don't understand, is that all these women must have known that he had some sort of sexual fetish by being the way he is. Like the hitting, choking, pulling hair. You can sense when a man is like that, I've dated a few before.
But I can also understand the women, and how much courage it takes to bring these experiences forward.
Didn't hear about the bathing suit pic, that's just weird. Like why.