I need some help about a wedding gift


takoda
on Jun 06, 2013 @ 07:53 am


My nephew is getting married in a few weeks and I don't know how much money would be appropriate to give as a gift. Keep in mind that she didn't have a wedding shower because they've bin living together for the past ten years, they bought their own home about five years ago and they have a nine year old daughter. So its not like then need anything to help them start their life together. This is why I thought money would be my best bet. I need to know how much you guy's think would be the right amount to give and would be a appropriate amount for this situation? If anyone has any suggestions for me I'd really appreciate some help with this, thanks ladies!
 


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Ali de Bold
Tough one on Jun 06, 2013 @ 08:42 am

I think the most important factor is what can you afford. There is no rule for how much it should be. I personally think anything in the $75-$200 range is a decent cash gift, but if that is too much just give what you can and get them a nice card.
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mamaluv
do the math on Jun 06, 2013 @ 09:27 am

First and foremost, I agree with Ali that you have to give according to what you are able. This being a reasonably close relation to you, it would be nice to be as generous as possible though within reason.

Since they didn't have a shower, I'd probably approach this in a mathematical way. IF there had been a shower, you probably would have spent $___ (let's say $50). For the wedding gift on its own (all other considerations ignored) you probably would have spent $___ (let's again say $50). Shower gift plus wedding gift equals your budget for this occasion.

It's always trickier when you have wedding related expenses to consider. I always feel for bridesmaids who are expected to attend and host several showers, buy a dress, pay for hair & makeup on wedding day, pay for the bachelorette party, and possibly a girls' weekend away. And then they are still expected to buy a gift...

Same thing for close relations if the wedding has a lot of DIY components. People are bringing food, buying wholesale flowers, landscaping their backyard so that they can host the wedding at home, etc etc etc.

Assuming you don't have any of these special expenses, you might consider going with my math example above. But if you have some extra costs directly related to this wedding, I think you could give a little less for the actual gift especially if you are a little tight for money at the moment.
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takoda
Thaks Ladies on Jun 07, 2013 @ 08:44 am


I had no clue what I should do, but both of your suggestions have helped me to narrow it down. I think I know where to go from here.
Thanks Again and have a nice day. :)
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Tatdewar
Hum on Sep 30, 2014 @ 07:20 pm

i think giving cash isn't ok unless they've asked for monetary gifts
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Anglewings
Help about a Wedding Gift on Oct 22, 2014 @ 09:08 pm

I don't know what kind of weddings you are use to but here,,we give about $40.00 as a wedding gift and nothing more.Especially if they have been living together for years.I would assume they already had everything they need.I don't know anyone who gives more.
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madeline.dm
Hard to say on Oct 22, 2014 @ 10:58 pm

A wedding, in theory, gift is supposed to be of equivalent monetary value as the price of the dinner reception. So if the dinner is $50 per person, a couple should give $100. Now this is just so that the bride and groom aren't paying for you to be at their wedding, but to each their own! Maybe see where they are hosting, what is included and judge from there. Good luck!
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