on Jan 15, 2013 @ 02:19 pm|
Remember my FML Day thread? Well seems like I'm going through a blah phase. You know the phase where you know you should be happy and grateful, but you're just bored and depressed instead? Well that's me nowadays. You might know that I'm working full time and going to uni full time so just sorta dying with all of that.
I still have the job that I've always loved, except I don't love it anymore. I feel stressed, overworked, frustrated, and guilty for feeling that way. I actually don't have more work to do compared to before, but .... I don't know. Perhaps I'm lazier? I hate to think that of myself but perhaps that's the case?
I don't know what to do to pull myself out of this funk. Do you ladies ever have blah periods in life? What do you do to bring yourself back to life? I want to take a vacay but .... I'm not even motivated to organize one, that's how bad of a blah I'm going through!
Any suggestions would be great :-)
Ali de Bold
|Yes on Jan 15, 2013 @ 02:43 pm|
We all go through this. It sounds like you need a vacation. Take the time to plan it. It will be well worth it for your sanity and you will come back recharged and energized. Plus there are lots of last minute deals right now.
I know first hand what it's like to be in school full time and working full time at the same time when I started ChickAdvisor. It is insanity. I literally had heart palpitations on a regular basis that I couldn't control (even got tested for heart problems) and to say I was stressed is an understatement.
You may also be affected by the weather. We have had a lot of grey days. I am affected when the sun disappears for days on end. You can take vitamin D, but I think if there is any way you can swing it, a vacation with actual sunlight is the perfect prescription.
Just think, spring is around the corner! Also, you won't be working and doing school at the same time forever. I wouldn't make any major decisions while you are in the thick of it so just do the best you can until the insanity is over and then evaluate your job and if it's still the right fit for you.
Big hugs to you!
|In A Blah on Jan 16, 2013 @ 03:15 pm|
You're definitely not alone in this. I totally know what you mean. I get stuck these ruts too where nothing seems to be going for you and nothing excites you anymore.
Partly, I do think its an environmental thing. The winter and the early dark days definitely get to us more than we think. Also, after the rush and the excitement of the holidays, I always find that I get a bit depressed, it's a big let down.
When this happens to me, it's important for me to figure out what the root issues and causes are. Where and why am I unhappy and is it worth changing or maybe just switching a few things up?
As for your job, is just that you need a break? Or do you need a new challenge? And do seriously consider if you think you should move on. It could be that it's time for you to look elsewhere. If you think maybe you just need to recharge your batteries, maybe just take a few days off and have a staycation (because planning vacations are a total b*tch I agree).
Aside from a break, I think taking on new challenges and hobbies definitely pulls me out of a slump. I decide to learn something or try something or go/do something new. Last time, I tried cross stitching, exercising, baking, a new diet. Or even just going out to a new restaurant you've always wanted to try or going out with your friends to a new place. Just like changing your habits even in a small way, like I am trying to make muy lunches at home every night, can make an impact.
Hopefully that helps! :)
|hmm on Jan 16, 2013 @ 06:22 pm|
I think if you're feeling overwhelmed and stressed, then a vacation is definitely the right option. Getting away from everything for a few days can really revive you and alter your perspective.
But if you're feeling more like...you just don't care anymore, nothing is exciting you, then maybe you need to take bigger steps. You said you're not loving your job anymore, so maybe it's time (like alexcj said) to find a new career path. Taking the reigns and actually doing this is easier said than done, but it'll definitely be worth it in the long run. If you aren't happy with it now, what're the chances you're going to be happy with it in the future? And a new job will definitely get you out of a rut!
|Thank you :) on Jan 18, 2013 @ 11:50 am|
hey girls, thank you all so much for your suggestions! :)
@Ali, I'm getting the same thing!!! Palpitations and just a sense of huge panic! I've had ECGs done as the doctor thought I had a murmur. Then they found my thyroids are low (or high? I forget which), and finally my iron is too low. I am an easy patient; anything wrong, blame it on the low hemoglobin. I think these palpitations and panic attacks are being caused by stress. Two full time jobs (job and school) isn't fun at all. I know I made the choice to pursue higher education but somehow I feel resentful that I'm stuck here working and studying while others are out there having the time of their lives. This is so unfair of me to feel that way, but there you go. :(
I really appreciate what you said, making a big decision like switching careers isn't the right one for me right now. I've always loved my job. I have super fun coworkers and the job itself is challenging, but nowadays perhaps because I'm just stressed in general I feel like I don't like it anymore. I'm at my end point of patience though. If one more person comes to me asking about when their machine will be built, I'mma march them over to my building desk and show them...grr ... lol. Honestly nowadays I feel like I'm getting frustrated to the point of becoming a bit short with people, and I really feel badly over it everytime that I am! Each morning I wake up determined to be nice, sometimes somewhere along the line I lose my resolve and get a bit snarky. Terrible.
Do you girls ever feel that when you're already at the end of your ropes, people just push a bit more? As I'm typing this I just got an email from this $#%# guy who sent the email to basically every 'manager' possible saying how he waited 3 months to get an issue resolved. Err why is he copying me at all? I'm not the one working on this issue at all. The idiot actually put in a "timeline" with dates and description of every communication he ever had with anyone regarding his issue. I feel like replying that it took 3 months to fix this issue and how much time did you waste writing this email? Of course I won't but... Grrr ... pissed x-(
You girls are so right, I do need to get away from it all for a while. Can you think of anywhere within Canada that I can go? I've never been anywhere other than Toronto, Montreal, Ottawa and Niagara. I want to go somewhere scenic. Any ideas where? I know there are tons of places in the States and elsewhere in the world I can go, but I want to sort of explore home first if I get the chance. Do you know of any sites or companies that organize tours within Canada?
I need to get away from this :(
|<3 on Jan 18, 2013 @ 02:01 pm|
They do awesome bus tours girl.
One time when I felt the way you did, I just booked a one day trip to Niagara ALL BY MYSELF.
It was the best time ever.
Sometimes you have to be your own best friend and take care of yourself. Book a trip (even if it's one or two days), recharge your battery and hopefully when you're back you will see your life a bit differently...
Seems like you just need a change of scene...
We're here for you <3