on Jan 04, 2012 @ 12:57 pm|
Question: Am I a mean person for requesting that a friend puts away her dog when she's hosting dinner parties?
I don't mind dogs, but this dog is a nightmare!! It jumps on people when they're sitting or standing, it circles people like it's a shark and it seems to become increasingly bad as hours go by.
I understand that it's not my house, but shouldn't you want to make your guests feel comfortable? NO ONE likes her dog, but everyone is afraid to mention it...
|Maybe... on Jan 04, 2012 @ 02:02 pm|
Start small like every time the dog jumps up or misbehaves towards you, make a point of asking your friend to do something about the dog. Just for yourself, if it's jumping at you at that exact moment say to your friend, hey can you please do something? It's tearing my tights... etc.
I have allergies so I automatically ask my friends if they wouldn't mind removing the pet from the room. That is different of course.
I only suggest starting off with just bringing it to their attention first because a.) they may not realize any one has a problem with their pet and b.) if they have to keep getting up to help you with the dog they may get a hint and not want to deal with the hassle of having the dog out every time there are guests.
|Jumping dog on Jan 04, 2012 @ 02:21 pm|
The dog jumping is just one of the many things, and it isn't just at me, it's at everyone. It's a 100 lb dog that likes to nip and lick and push people over among many other things.
I think the owners are in complete denial re: how bad the dog is or they have an attitude like, it's my baby, get used to it.
I will use your tactic, unless I just avoid going over there all together.
This dog is starting to make me dislike dogs all together... my anxiety is always in overdrive when I am over there
|Put it away! on Jan 04, 2012 @ 02:32 pm|
I completely agree with you- a dog that jumps around, makes guests uncomfortable etc. should be put away. They should do this without having guests ask, it is the polite thing to do!
|not at all! on Jan 04, 2012 @ 02:45 pm|
I don't think it's mean at all to ask your friend to lock her dog in another room / in the backyard while she has guests over, especially if the dog is a problem-dog like you're describing. I don't mind small / medium dogs, but a friend of mine has a German Shepard which scares the crap out of me, so anytime I go over I ask her to put him in another room. Last time I was over, she got a real kick out of letting him go and watching him run towards me and try to climb on my 5ft frame... I didn't yelp, or run, I kept my dignity, barely. But yea, that was the last time I was over there :-)
I'm a pet owner myself so I do understand how our pets are like our kids, and hard as it is, we have to realize not everyone has to love our pets the way we do and if someones uncomfortable we can do the sensible thing and lock her up while they're over.
|And a tip for jumping on Jan 04, 2012 @ 03:01 pm|
Despite allergies, I have had dogs my whole life and the best way that I have stopped jumping pets is this:
When you are visiting and a dog lumbers up to you to jump, turn your back to the dog. Turn your whole body away from the dog, big or small. The dog will attempt to move to your front side, turn again. Keep turning your back every time it attempts to jump. Believe it or not, it works every time.
Don't fuss the dog, ignore it. Don't command it to sit, just keep turning so it only is facing your back.
Owners should not this behavior happen, but let's face it, many pet owners don't know how to take charge of their pets.
|tell them on Jan 04, 2012 @ 03:26 pm|
I think it's incredibly bad form to let any disruptive influence at a party. I'm a pet owner and mom of 3. If my kids are acting up, better believe I take them into another room and pop in a movie to keep them quiet. My pets are outdoor, so if we're hosting a pool party, into the kennel they go. Part of it is that most of our parties involve our friends' kids so I would never dream of allowing our biggish dogs (50 and 70 lbs respectively) to roam freely. We do let our cat run around in the yard, but mostly - as cats often do - she disdains everyone's company and finds a quiet spot to take a nap.
|@becky on Jan 04, 2012 @ 03:47 pm|
LOL - I'm laughing but it's not that funny when you're in the situation (having a huge dog run toward you)... this happens too often to me. I have chest pain and am nervous now just thinking about it.
Thanks, it's good to know that I'm not horrible (as a non pet owner)
|@marygorgeous on Jan 04, 2012 @ 03:48 pm|
I will wear something really thick and use that trick - if I end up going over...
|@mamaluv on Jan 04, 2012 @ 03:50 pm|
I tell her all the time - your dog is insane, your dog frightens me, your dog is so bad... and she replies "I know, he'll calm down eventually..." her husband just laughs it off...
I guess it's really just up to me to not go
|wow on Jan 04, 2012 @ 05:08 pm|
That is so disrespectful of her and her hubby. It's also a lawsuit in waiting - imagine if that dog knocks someone over and they suffer a serious injury?? "Calm down eventually" will be a little late then. I think you should stick up for yourself and say "I'll come over if you agree to put the dog away because he's a little too wild for me." If she takes offense, then that's her choice. In my mind there IS a difference between animals and people. Even if someone loves their kitty or pooch like a family member, the bottom line is that ALL animals are unpredictable to some degree. Humans can at least be reasoned with (and there are plenty of unpredictable humans, obviously).