on Oct 04, 2016 @ 09:37 am|
I quit a job this morning without notice - just told them I had to walk away for my own health and my family life.
I've never done this before, and for much of my career was a retail manager, so I fully understand the problems it causes when someone does this, so I feel horrible.
That being said, the job I was expected to do (acting manager) was no longer the job I had been hired for - I did not want to be a manager right now, as I have health and family concerns I am responsible for outside of work.
When the manager left, it was assumed I would take over, as I had the experience, but I had not signed up for these responsibilities and repeatedly asked the District Manager for help and support, and received none. I am not available to any job 24/7 right now, and I was getting phone calls and sick calls I was responsible for in the middle of the night constantly. I also wasn't being paid any extra for all the extra responsibilities.
Today, enough was enough, and I wrote an email explaining my reasons, and turned in my keys, effective immediately, although I know they are short staffed this week. However, the stress has made me physically sick lately, and I almost had a panic at the thought of walking in there today - I am done, and there was no help coming.
I just still feel guilty for doing so. Anyone else been in this position??
|. on Oct 04, 2016 @ 09:56 am|
Ive never been in this position and I know you feel bad but you walked away from something that was pushed onto you. You even asked for help so you should not feel guilty for leaving, you were overwhelmed by things that were not even your responsibility and from the sounds of it you had no one to assist you.
If you were physically sick from the stress it would of only gotten worse the longer you stayed. Im sorry you were in that situation and I hope you start to fell better soon.
|Yes on Oct 04, 2016 @ 10:52 am|
I too had a job where the thought of going in made me physically sick. I was a waitress at a very busy restaurant in a mall in North Bay...and the owner made it her pet project to make my life hell.
Some days she was wonderful, like I was her best friend, and other days, she wasn't happy unless I went home in tears. (I know how melodramatic that sounds...but it was a proven fact that her goal was to see how far she could push members of her staff.) She intentionally gave me very small sections so I could either a) help her favourite girls out, busing their tables, bringing their food out or b) help her teenage son with his homework.
When she liked someone, she was a terrific boss, when she didn't...she was SATAN!
I finally had enough one night (again...section of 4 tables while another girl had 12 tables) At the end of my shift, I left her a note on her desk telling her I was not coming back. I quit, effective immediately.
Funny thing is, I had no problem getting Unemployment, even though I quit, because they had a file on her and how many people quit on her in the past.
|. on Oct 04, 2016 @ 12:29 pm|
I worked at a Loblaw as a bakery clerk. You would think that would be an easy job -- I did too! -- but the reality is that is is very hard, very physically demanding work. I am a small person at just 115 pounds and I was lifting boxes that were 30 pounds, pushing around carts that were 7 feet tall and very heavy, climbing stepladders while carrying heavy trays with no one there to spot me. I have had health issues since childhood, and even though I was in the best physical shape of my life, it was simply too much for me. I was coming home white as a sheet. You have to put your health first, even if it means the company is at a bit of a disadvantage in having to replace you on such short notice.
|;) on Oct 04, 2016 @ 12:35 pm|
I have done this too to my employer that brought me here to Canada. long story short, I was getting bad anxiety from my job and the supervisor was a bully. My hands were raw from dishwashing and developing bad eczema. They didn't care so in return I didn't give notice and just walked away. I lost lots of friends. They hated me. I moved on with my life and never looked back or even went back to visit the town again. I'm not gonna lie, I think about them from time to time but you gotta do what you gotta do especially if you think you are not happy anymore.
|Sorry To Hear on Oct 04, 2016 @ 01:51 pm|
Yes, I've been in your shoes, I'm out of all people could understand how you feel. It sucks to have responsibilities dumped on you without a raise or no notice.
It causes a lot of stress.
Don't feel bad, you did the right thing and thought about your health and family first. I was unfortunate and put up with the work load and stress for many years. Until I broke down and has taken me years to bring my health back up. I wished I was strong enough like you and just leave at the time, but I didn't until it was too late.
I literally had a mental breakdown and was still unsure at the time what was going on or what caused it. I was just blaming everything on myself and my attitude.
Just remember with a job, you could always find another one. With your health, it may never recover or takes many many years to recover. So your mental and physical health should be most important. Don't feel bad, they pushed you too far and that's something your employer should think about.
In fact, I see that trend with a lot of employer these days. They would be short staff and push the work load onto others hoping to get away with it for as long as they could without compensation or acknowledgement. So as long as you let them, they will just keep doing it. Good for you for quitting!
|Thank you on Oct 04, 2016 @ 04:12 pm|
Thanks Ladies - I needed to hear some of this today. Even though I felt that I had reached out and asked for help and for changes and knew that I wasn't to blame for the situation, there is immense guilt at leaving them high and dry.
As the day has gone on, though, I have come to realize that I was actually putting myself and my family first - they will have me replaced at work soon enough, but my family only has one "me."
Short and sweet of it - if they had respected me as a person, I would have had more respect for them as a company.
Thanks again for sharing your stories and advice - I love the ladies in the Chick Adviser Community!
|gypsygirl on Oct 05, 2016 @ 10:24 am|
I firmly believe if anyone is not happy in their job, quit. Your happiness and health are more important. I myself quit numerous jobs till I found what type of work made me happy and that I in fact enjoyed.I chose a career that was rewarding. If I were you, I would try to relax and think about what you would like to do.Choose what you feel would make you happy, whether it be a cashier, teacher, or physician. It's all attainable. Try not to stress and worry; a job is really not as important as your well being
|. on Oct 05, 2016 @ 06:15 pm|
Putting your health and family first is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about. The fear of disrupting or angering the work environment is understandable, but how long does someone need to suffer in silence before they really get sick? Unfortunately, we are trained to always please others and put our own needs last and then you realize one day that you've wasted so much time being unhappy. For what? A paycheck? What good is that paycheck if you're destroying your health and family along the way? The only person who can save you from going crazy or getting sick is you. Apart from family and close friends, no one else will care, especially at a job where you can be easily replaced with someone else. I think you did the right thing. I'm sure there was a good reason for you to have quit immediately and it's okay to feel bad for the colleagues you've left behind to handle the situation but don't let it eat at you. You did what was right for you and they will be just fine after a little organization. There's no use staying where you're not happy, so move on to what makes you feel valued and at ease. I wish you the best of luck as you move forward from this.