on Sep 27, 2015 @ 12:46 pm|
The dreaded sex talk..... Is there really a proper age to start discussing with your child? I could most definitely be wrong, but the time is right as soon as they are asking questions. I would never tell a child babies come out of mommy's stomach > I would simply say they come from mommy. When they ask from where then tell them you'll know about that when you're older. I realize this is a sensitive topic and do not mean to offend Just an opinion
|. on Sep 29, 2015 @ 01:06 pm|
Tough subject. I'm not a parent and in this case I'm glad lol, I wouldn't know where to start
|Birds and Bees on Jan 08, 2016 @ 09:04 pm|
I first started talking to my daughter about certain topics when she was 9 or 10. she wanted to know about getting your period and developing breasts, so.that's where I started and at age 12 she was coming to me asking questions about babies and sex,so we discussed a little then,now my daughter is 14 and we have officially had the talk and we have a very open relationship where she can come to me and not feel embarrassed about asking certain questions. Parents need to educate their children not just about getting pregnant but also about all the sexual infections you can get and AIDS . its a very scary world
|. on Jan 08, 2016 @ 09:52 pm|
I saw a really good episode of Oprah that says you should discuss it with proper medical names from the time they can talk basically. And that having these discussions young is a great time to bring up consent and make sure they know that their private areas are for them and only them until they're a certain age.
But really it's up to the parent. Some girls get their period very early, I got mine at 10, so I'd say 8 or 9 at the latest!
| . on Jan 08, 2016 @ 10:19 pm|
I've always taught my daughters proper anatomical names for all body parts, including genitals. My oldest is 7, and knows baby's come out of a vagina and that breasts make milk for baby to drink but that's the extent. I think I'll start talking about periods etc around 9-10, depending on her questions and own physical development. Having the sex talk will be later. Not sure when. Probably sometime between 12-13ish. I think keeping an open communication about this stuff is important, so they feel safe about talking to parents about it.
|. on Feb 11, 2016 @ 11:08 pm|
Have a 16 year old. And I've been openly talking to him about sexual health topics and right vs wrong, birth control, rape, child molesters, predators, and any other question he has wanted to know.
But I have also been volunteering at a Womens Shelter, and giving talks about HIV/Hep C, so I am comfortable talking about sex.
|. on Feb 11, 2016 @ 11:19 pm|
I will tell my daughter to always be open with me and to come to me with any questions.
|. on Feb 12, 2016 @ 01:57 am|
You're all on the right track! As teachers, we have a new mandate (at least in my province) to teach sex education as early as kindergarten since more and more young girls are menstruating sooner than our generations did (nowadays as early as the age of 8-9, even 7 in rare cases). You'd also be surprised how more in tune with sexual issues this generation is compared to kids that grew up in the 90's, 80's, and so on. They know waaaaaaayyyyy more than any of us ever did in kindergarten all thanks to the media and their provocatively dressed favorite pop stars, whom unfortunately they try to emulate. Thinking back, we once had a 2nd grade student who was caught accessing porn in the school's computer lab, just to help you understand how early it can start.
However, this doesn't mean that we teach sex-ed to the full extent at that young of an age. We go according to their development and life changes and don't get too technical in the early stages. For instance, they don't need to know about different STDs in kindergarten, but rather, how to respect our bodies and that of others, then as they the years go on, personal hygiene, feelings, reproduction, etc... When puberty and peer pressure start kicking in around 5th - 6th grade, the subject will get more and more in depth as they progress and grow.
I definitely agree about explaining in anatomically correct terms. Don't baby talk this subject to them. Teach it as something very serious that needs to be learned for their own knowledge and safety as well as that of others. Encourage questions and when they do ask, try your best to tell them what you think they should know at their age and if you aren't sure about the information, don't just shrug it off and say you don't know or aren't comfortable discussing it. Research the subject and answer to the best of your abilities, all while keeping in mind their age. It's imperative for the child/teenager to understand these issues, so it shouldn't be an option. If they're asking you, it's because they overheard or saw something that is unfamiliar to them and are coming to you for reassurance and to figure out reality. They should be hearing it from their parents and teachers first and not some misguided information that they come across during recess, playing with their friends or by watching music videos of women gyrating in scantily clad clothing.
The best way to start the discussion, is to just ask them what they already think they know or have heard and make it a regular topic for acquiring knowledge. Just keep calm and go with the flow. It's something that needs to be faced eventually, but gradual steps are best instead of bombarding them with a boatload of information only when they're older.