on Nov 22, 2007 @ 08:40 am|
im due in a months time and bcoz i am small boned,the dr advised me 2 hav a c section..i am not really aware of what it entails as im the first in the fam to have it done..iv heard terrible stories about it.any advice?
|routine surgery on Nov 22, 2007 @ 12:32 pm|
A planned C-section is routine surgery. It would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about his/her level of experience (e.g. what percent of deliveries have you done by C vs. vag?) which will probably give you some peace of mind. I had an emergency C-section, but my concerns were much more about the safety of my baby and not so much about what was happening to me.
In a C-section, they will prep you by shaving and sterilizing the area. You will probably have a spinal block or epidural (I don't think they do a full knock-out anymore unless absolutely necessary). The doctor makes a lateral (think horizontal) incision in your pubic region, probably about 4 inches (~10 cm) long (mine is actually a little smaller). Then they use a spreader tool to open things up a little; you may tear a little here but a tear supposedly heals better than a cut. They reach in and take the baby out. Then they use staples or stitches to close you up. You'll be in recovery for about 3 hours or so, until you regain feeling in your lower half.
In my experience, the pain was fairly manageable. I was offered meds regularly, but only took them to sleep. You will have to be careful with your incision, not getting it wet until it has begun to heal somewhat (48 hrs?). You'll also have to monitor it carefully for infection - you would see pus, redness, and swelling if you have it. This is easily cleared up with antibiotics or creams. For 6-8 weeks after birth, you don't want to lift anything heavier than your baby or do heavy housework. I felt well enough to handle vacuuming and carrying groceries by week 5 or 6 - just listen to your body and stop as soon as you feel you've pushed too far. If you can afford it, get a maid service to come in once weekly to keep your house livable and have your husband/partner help out as much as possible.
A vaginal birth is not without problems too. Some upsides to a caesarian are lighter postpartum bleeding and no vaginal damage (once you're healthy enough to have sex again, this will be a huge advantage). Assuming your caesarian goes well, you should have no problems delivering vaginally for baby #2 (this is called VBAC - vag birth after caes.).
As much as I had worried about the possibility of having a C-section, it really wasn't as bad as I'd thought. I would have preferred not having it, but sometimes you don't have a choice. In your case, it sounds like you do have some choices:
1. go ahead with a planned C as your doctor recommends. Benefits are knowing the date (so you can be ready), knowing what to expect, and not going through labor pains (I think they're overrated! lol).
2. plan for a vag, and take the C only if you really need it in the end. The doc can't force you one way or the other, and you might manage a vag birth after all. Consider this though: my friend insisted on a vag birth and it was so traumatic that she has no positive memories of that time. She should have caved in the end and taken the C but was too stubborn.
I'd say, don't try to be a hero. Personally, I would rather enjoy the birth process (as far as that's possible) than look back on that time with misery. If I were in your position, I'd probably try to labor first and see what happens, but this is your life and health.
Now nearly 2 yrs later, I have no lasting effects from my C other than the scar. My doctor placed it low enough that I can wear any bikini without fear of exposing it. It will always show if I would have a Brazilian wax, but since I'm not into that it doesn't matter! For 6 months or so, there was a lot of tingling and itchiness around the scar as nerve endings reconnected themselves and to this day I don't have full sensation along the scar line, but this is not even an issue - I mention it only so you know what to expect.
Don't fear the Caesarian. So many women have it, it's routine. Sure there could be complications, but so could a vag birth. I hope this helps! If you have more specific questions, let me know...
|im relieved on Nov 22, 2007 @ 12:58 pm|
thank u so much for ur reply.i was also opting to try out the vag n c how the labour progresses...im pretty sure i know wat to expect now(from the mother's point of view"...thanks a lot!
Scents Of Peace
|Your choice - not the doctor's golf schedule . . . on Nov 27, 2007 @ 12:15 am|
Let me start by saying I was barely 105 lbs. (5'3") when I got pregnant and was bedridden most of my term. I was VERY high risk for a number of reasons.
I had no female relatives to lean on, and even at 21, I was the first of my close friends to get pregnant - so my support group was very small. And as for childbirthing classes -I figured Lamaze was a man, so what did he know anyway ;-)
I butted heads with my OB on many issues and opted for a natural birth. I will not lie to you and say labor is "fun", but it is nothing to be afraid of and we're programmed by The Big Guy Upstairs for as natural as possible. Trust me - we'd be extinct if it was as horrible as some say it is - but perhaps, for them, it was.
Go in without any expectations except that you'll be leaving with a baby - and you won't be as stressed. Your body produces an enormous amount of happy hormones, called endorphins, that are Nature's way of ensuring we deal with (and forget) the yucky moments.
These days too many women allow doctors to schedule their delivery dates because it fits THEIR schedule better. Face it, they like sleep too ;-) It is also a profitable venture for the medical industry as it skyrockets the cost . . . more time at the hospital, more drugs, more pre/post/during surgical supplies, more follow-up appointments (in-house and when you leave) . . . and that's just for the woman !
There is risk too - but that's a given, and not just for you.
Modern medicine has it's place and nobody should decline a C if their baby is distressing. From what my mother has told me, I should have been a C-baby, but her doc was not versed well enough on the procedure and opted to manually turn me around (twice) and then eventually used forceps. That was forty years ago.
My son was a breeze to deliver and my first conscience thought after delivery was " Man, am I HUNGRY !!! " while they cleaned up my newborn - lol ! I was walking around the hospital looking for the cafeteria within hours. Seriously !
For the record, I was one of the only women during my stay that delivered V, without an epidural and no episiotomy !!!! Most of them had a C, but AFTER having the epidural. The reason is that you cannot feel your labor as well and are not able to push effectively. You eventually wear yourself out and stress the baby.
Years later, I worked in a hospital and saw this over and over again.
One more point : Plagued with girlie issues that eventually led to surgery, I can say it took me well over 15 years to lose the totally dead sensation at my suture line and twenty years later, I'm beginning to finally notice it's not as numb down there. But that's me . . .
Bottom line : Have a wonderful birthing experience and choose natural for you and your baby BUT be prepared (emotionally) for an emergency C if need be. Avoid an epi if you can wait for the endorphins to kick in. I've been told you can only have a certain number in your LIFETIME because it's injected in your spinal fluid. Think of them as "Three Wishes" and don't waste them if you can ride out the labor.
Please don't think I'm the Nature Nazi (bwaaaa haaa haa) and know that I respect mothers who may have had a C (planned or emergency) because I know how hard that type of surgery is to recover from. Everything has it's time and place . . . . ultimately your decision is what's best for you and your baby !
Let us know how you're doing and relax - relax - relax ;--)
|u have all been amazing... on Nov 27, 2007 @ 05:44 am|
time is drawing near and im extremely excited...thank u to everyone!i will keep u posted
|ooooooh, exciting! on Nov 27, 2007 @ 12:20 pm|
Good luck w/ your delivery! How exciting. We wish you the best and keep us posted! :-)