Depression


justme11
on Sep 14, 2011 @ 11:32 am


I was hoping that some of you could tell me signs of depression. How you realized you or someone else was? I am starting to think I may really be but I am just not sure. :/

Help with signs , symptoms, solutions?

Thank you so much. I hope you all are having a wonderful day. xoxo
 


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AlexJC
Important Issue! on Sep 14, 2011 @ 12:06 pm

First off- If you think you are depressed, I urge you to visit your doctor as soon as you can!

Now- depression comes in a lot of forms, there's situational depression and clinical depression or maybe you're just feeling bummed out lately. In any of these cases, it will help to talk to someone to really investigate what you are feeling and why.

In my experience, depression usually results in a general feeling of 'blahhh' - that's not a great way to put it sorry!
When I was in high school, my best friend was diagnosed with depression and it seemed to me that she just didn't care anymore, she didn't want to do anything, didn't want to go out and felt really bad about herself. Depression also results in weight change too sometimes.

I think you talked about breaking up with your boyfriend recently- this could be a catalyst for you and in this case, it could just be situational depression. I promise you, if this is the case, it will get better!!! I know it seems like everything has fallen apart right now but give yourself time, you will realise eventually that you are ok!

I recommend talking with your doctor about how you are feeling, if they feel like it is necessary, they can refer you to a psychiatrist or therapist who can give you more help. There is no shame in the way you're feeling or in seeing a therapist (trust me!) so don't be afraid!!!

Hope it works out and you take this advice, let us know how you are feeling!


WOOOOWWW that was long ;) xxoo
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erinlee
agree with alexjc on Sep 19, 2011 @ 06:03 pm

If you think you might be dealing with depression, then YES see a doctor!! The earlier this is dealt with, the easier it will be in the long run!!

Some of the basic signs are things like a change in appetite (going long periods where your not hungry at all, or finding yourself binging frequently), changes in your sleep, either insomnia, or feeling drained and tired all the time, mood swings (from getting frustrated and angry over little things that normally wouldn't phase you, or crying fits, to the other extreme of not caring about things that you normally care about)
Sometimes depression hits when something bad has affected a large part of your life, and your mind is having trouble dealing with it. It can also be more of a chemical imbalance, where you have that constant feeling like something is going horribly wrong, when there's nothing major in your life that's changed (for example you could be having a perfectly normal day, but you still feel almost as though you've lost someone close to you)

Whether its brought on by a trigger, difficult situation, loss of someone in your life, or if its come up suddenly and seems to have no apparent reason for it, either way there's a variety of options for treating it. Talk to your doctor about different options, whether it be medication, therapy, or a combination of the two. Just please don't wait too long.. if you're feeling depressed, but your mind seems to be telling you "its no big deal.. others have it worse off, stop feeling sorry for yourself" - things like that - thats just as much of a sign as the physical symptoms.

Again, like alexjc says, there is absolutely no shame in this. The majority of people in North America deal with some form of depression, or other mental illness, at some point in their lives, so no matter what extent you're dealing with this, don't ever think you're alone!!!

*hugz* let us know how things go!!
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justme11
:/ on Sep 20, 2011 @ 12:25 pm


It has already been a hard year, multiple people passed away, illness, the break up, and I picked up and moved. I feel empty, and the only thing I do feel is aching or tears. I hide it well. Sometimes I can eat and feel normal around close friends, other times I want to be completely alone.Nothing excites me or gives me hope anymore. I lost the love of my life and he is okay and happy. I don't talk to him but knowing he is happy without me kills me. I feel so pathetic. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't have energy to fight to be okay. As bad as that sounds. I've never felt so much pain in my life, every moment I hurt. I don't feel like myself anymore, I feel ugly, un wanted, lonely, and like a waste of space.I know I shouldn't feel those things. I want my life back, I want my heart back, I want to feel hope, I want to smile and mean it. When I wake up I wish I hadn't. I know all of this sounds awful, and I could never physically harm myself but I don't know why I am here. All I get it pain when all I have ever tried to give is the opposite. I'm looking for a therapist. I'm just terrified, I have hurt before.....but never like this.
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AlexJC
Here for you! on Sep 20, 2011 @ 01:06 pm

Hey @justme11,

It sounds like you are really hurting right now, I know this seems like just a never ending pit of despair but believe me that you can get better!

I think you need to seek out some serious advice and professional help. I would make an appointment with your family or GP doctor immediately. If you can't do this, then I would even try a walk in clinic. My point is that finding a therapist takes time, but a doctor will refer you to one.

If you are in university then your uni or even college will probably have a mental health center where you can speak to a therapist for free- make use of this service! At the very least, it will help you feel like you are getting somewhere and doing something to help yourself.

The fact that you say that you want to get better and that you are aware of your feelings really makes me feel like you can do this and you can get better- even if you don't feel it now.

You are not pathetic at all! You are not a waste of space or unwanted or ugly!

There is no shame at all in the way you are feeling, you'd be surprised at how many people suffer or have suffered from depression. The feelings and things you are describing sound like someone suffering from depression, you are not alone in these feelings.

As for the 'ex' situation.... I heard this expression once and for some reason it really helped me, but you need to erase him from your brain. Don't compare yourself to him or what he is feeling. Once you erase him, you'll be able to look at things from an objective angle.

I hope this helps- seriously take my advice though! And if you do ever feel like you might self harm, you need to speak to someone right away about it. I would even suggest calling a help line. I know it might sound a bit weird but they are there for a reason and there is no shame or harm in using them.

Keep us all posted! xxoo
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The Fashion P.A.
Talk to your doctor! on Sep 20, 2011 @ 01:21 pm

Talk to your Doctor asap, taking care of yourself is your #1 priority.
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Becky
where are you? on Sep 20, 2011 @ 02:11 pm

I know exactly of the utterly hopeless feeling you're drowning in right
now. Time will help you. You need to physically force yourself to get involved in other activities, find stuff you like and just go for it. Keep yourself super busy. Do charity work. Volunteer at hospitals. Often looking at those who are in much worse off situations really help bring home how much better we are. Just let it hit you like a ton of brick: how utterly useless of a man your ex was, what an extreme waste of life it was to be with him, and how much better you truly are without him. Now the rest of your life is your own. Your life now belongs to you. No more misery. No more abuse. Let that feeling hit you and sink in.

If you live in Toronto, try making an appointment with Dr White: 416-229-2399
As far as I know there's only a $20 registration fee, and then OHIP covers the rest.

*hugs*
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Schmoopie
I know exactly how you feel- don't give up hope! on Sep 20, 2011 @ 11:31 pm

JustMe, I too suffer from depression and I know exactly what you are feeling. It can be so hard to find a reason to want to go out and do anything but it is so important to do it! I have had a chronic pain condition for the past 15 years or so- with that, quite often, comes depression. With all you've been through, it is very normal to feel depressed. The good news is you can feel better. Don't be afraid to see someone about your problems- it is always good to talk about them and to deal with the emotions and sorrow that comes with them. Even getting out of the house to go to your appointments is helpful because having a routine and getting out will make you feel a lot better. I know from experience. Call a friend, go out, go for a walk, enjoy a hobby or even read a book or watch a movie- all these things will make you feel better and take you out of your own head. Slowly, your pain will lessen and you'll feel better. Taking an anti-depressant may help you and you should definitely see your doctor about trying one. A lot of people are reluctant to take medication but I say try whatever will help to make you feel better! There are so many options these days, what can it hurt? I have tried Celexa, Cipralex and Cymbalta and they have been helpful. Medication and counselling together is the best way to tackle depression. If you haven't already done so, make an appointment to see your doctor soon or go to a walk-in clinic for help. There are lots of people ready to give you some help so be sure to seek it out!

I hope my words have helped you a little bit. I'm thinking of you and wishing you well!!

Maria
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