on May 28, 2014 @ 09:02 am|
I'm having a lot of anxiety about returning to work. I'll realize that I have to go back in less than too months and have a little panic attack. I would be a stay home mom if we could afford it!! I take a deep breath and try to talk myself by down to earth, it's the reality of the situation, I have to get back to real life.
Did anyone have a hard time coming to terms with returning to work? What sort of coping skills did you use?
|Calm down on May 28, 2014 @ 05:29 pm|
We or most of us want to stay home with our babies. This is natural, is there anyway you could go back to work gradually so that you get used to being away from baby a little at a time. If you are really nervous about leaving babe with strangers how about seeing if there is any work that you can do from home. I do not know what type of work you do or if you are going back to the same job you worked at before maternity leave.
Some employers are empathetic to new Mom's needs and will work around these needs. Speak to your employer; see if something cannot be arranged. If not then start researching babysitters or day cares so that you will feel better about leaving the child with some one you trust.
The only other thing I can suggest is, is there anyway you and hubby can work something out so that one of you is with baby at all times so that you do not have to rely on a stranger to take care of your child.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Ali de Bold
|It is hard on May 28, 2014 @ 09:01 pm|
I had a really hard time with this too. I don't like being away from my babies at all. I agree with Petersgirl that you should talk to your employer and see if any arrangements can be made. Maybe you could work 4 days a week instead of 5? That would save them money and allow you to spend more time with your child. Of course you would earn a bit less but it wouldn't be like earning nothing. Not every employer will go for that but it's worth a shot.
I wouldn't recommend asking to work from home unless your job can be done at home and you are super disciplined and your employer knows that. It's really hard to be productive at home with kids. I find I can only work when they are napping. I'm much more productive at the office.
I think the most important thing is to make sure you have great arrangements for them. Whether that's a really loving nanny or a daycare you feel good about, take a lot of time to do your research and make sure it's the best possible arrangement.
For the rest of your time off, just enjoy every minute of it. Don't waste it worrying about going back to work. You may surprise yourself that going back isn't as bad as you think. And when you do go home at the end of the work day you will have that sweet little face so happy to see you. It makes my day every day. Big hugs!