Need some reassurance-super scared!

on Sep 06, 2013 @ 04:22 pm

Okay, so Labor Day weekend I had unprotected sex with a guy that I have been dealing with for several years as a friend. He finished inside me and it caused a HUGE argument, because last time it happened I scolded him but thought it was an accident. Yes, I'm hard headed and I am very naive. I accept full responsibility. Thing is, I looked at my app that tells me when I get my period and since it has been spot on every single time I got scared because it told me my highest date of fertility was that very same day. I have been seeing pregnant women EVERYWHERE and that happened right before I found out I was pregnant with my other children. I know I sound paranoid, but I guess I need some reassurance so I don't lose my cool before I can actually take a pregnancy test. Which would be when? I'm due for my period around 9/15-9/18. HELP!

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Deep Breaths on Sep 09, 2013 @ 10:03 am

I understand your fears and anxiety - I think most sexually active women have faced similar situations at one point or another.

Every time I have been worried about being pregnant I have convinced myself that everything is a sign...a light cramp, upset stomach, food cravings etc. Turns out it was all my anxiety and I (thankfully in those times) was actually not expecting.

I guess my only advice is cross bridges as they come. The only way to know for sure is to take a test....if it's negative then all the worry was for nothing. If it's positive then you will have to make decisions that are best for you.

If you aren't taking birth control I do suggest looking into it. It might not be 100% (for example certain antibiotics will reduce it's effectiveness) but it's better than nothing. I am terrible at remembering the pill so about 7 years ago switched to the NuvaRing and it's the best choice I have ever made.

Also with this particular fellow, if he has issues respecting your wish to not have him finish inside you I personally would either end my sexual relationship with him or insistent on condoms.

Best of luck, and I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress. Fingers crossed that you have dodged the accidental pregnancy bullet.

Ali de Bold
Don't worry until you have to on Sep 09, 2013 @ 01:54 pm

I know it is easier said than done but for now there is nothing you can do to make time go faster until you can take a test. You just have a few days left and some tests like Clear Blue are supposed to be able to tell you a few days before your period is due. In my case it was only able to tell me the day my period was due but I still preferred that over waiting for it to be late.
In the future regardless of the outcome do yourself and your future children a favour and never have unprotected sex again unless it is with someone you are married to/in a committed long term relationship with that is father material. You sound like an intelligent person but you are not only gambling with your life but the lives of any babies that may come out of this. Children deserve to be raised in stable, two parent (ideally) homes. I hope the test turns put negative for you and that it's a good wake up call. You let him do this twice now. Let it be the last time.

Definitely on Sep 11, 2013 @ 04:47 pm

Thank you girls, I have already resolved that whether the test turns up positive or negative that I am through with him. I take this as a blatant disrespect and my poor choices take partial blame but rest assured this won't happen again. Thank you, I will try not to worry.

Listen to your inner voice... on Sep 13, 2013 @ 06:00 pm

We have this great thing as inner monologue that makes you aware when some thing isn't right...

I think its your voice telling you to not do it again, and the fact your stressing over it should be the red flag that you need to make a better choice to protect yourself and your long term health.

As a nurse I cant stress it enough....please use protection ALWAYS....until your in a loving, committed relationship and your sure your partner values your sexual health as much as yourself.

There are resources in your community from plan B to STI testing and a whole range of pregnancy help. Contact your local public health unit and seek a confidential assessment.

Love M

I have on Sep 23, 2013 @ 01:42 pm

Mojor, I am a bit freaked now because my test this mornign said positive then after taking some vitamin c with water the second said negative. I'm hoping i just got a false positive, but does anyone ever get false negatives??

See a Doctor to be sure! on Sep 23, 2013 @ 03:03 pm


I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this stress.

False positives are rare. Early in a pregnancy hormones often haven't had time to build strength in urine, which could possibly explain why you would get a negative result after diluting the urine by drinking water.

I would recommend going to a doctor for a definitive answer.

Yes on Sep 24, 2013 @ 02:06 pm

I think I got my answer this morning I took four more tests obsessing and they were all positive. :/

False Positive on Oct 03, 2013 @ 07:44 pm

FFalse positives are very rare, and 4 would be almost unheard of. I do hope you have seen a ddoctor and are to make a decision that works for you.

OOPS on Oct 03, 2013 @ 07:46 pm

My apologies..I just noticed the date and realized that my comment is outdated. I cannot delete, so please accept my apology.

Ali de Bold
What are you going to do ? on Oct 03, 2013 @ 09:30 pm

Congratulations on the pregnancy. Even though this was not the outcome you were hoping for every child is a blessing. Have you decided how you are going to handle the situation with the father?

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