negative vs positive

on Jan 26, 2016 @ 11:38 am

i suffer from depression and i have been really trying to change my thoughts ... i can be very negative at times... i am trying now to change the way i look at everything instead of its a shitty day i will tell myself its a great day!!! odd but this is working for me!!!! i am really trying hard to keep it do you feel about the neg thoughts versus the positive you know that we process our thoughts thousands of times a day, so if i can be positive this has to change my energy .... i hope!!!! have a great day everyone!!!

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. on Jan 26, 2016 @ 11:55 am

Find something that makes you happy even if it's a little thing. Once you know you found it try to do it as much as possible. For a silly example; my saturday morning routing to go to the library and get some dvd's to watch over the weekend. I look forward to that and it may sound stupid but it makes me smile
Chin up!

:) on Jan 26, 2016 @ 11:56 am

In my past I have suffered from depression and I still go through bouts of depression and anxiety.
I can be very negative as well and sometimes I have a hard time looking at the positives. But like you I do try and focus on the positive side of things rather then getting totally bummed out about the negative things. But sometimes it is hard.

When I can't shake my negative thoughts I try and get out and go for a walk or a run and only think about the positive and the awesome things about my life.

It is super hard to acknowledge that you have depression and even harder to try and change your way of thinking. It is awesome that you are trying to change that :)


:) on Jan 26, 2016 @ 12:43 pm

Sometimes its really hard to feel positive especially if things in our lives are not so great,but for me I always try and think of something positive in my life like my daughter or my husband,sometimes even simple things like getting that free sample in the mail or coming on this site always makes me feel better

feeling better on Jan 26, 2016 @ 02:16 pm

that's a great way of putting it...:) ive been trying to be more positive and feeling better about things lately its just for me not working and been home for 9 months and out of a routine. Ive been sleeping so much that im setting an alarm now and it feels better already only been a couple days!

thoughts on Jan 26, 2016 @ 03:00 pm

Talking to a trusted friend or even writing about it in the forum can help you sort out your feelings. Sometimes, we get overloaded with negative thoughts and think don't rationalize properly, when in reality, it's not as bad as it seems. Speaking to someone about it can make you look at life through another perspective.

A trick I sometimes use when I notice myself thinking too negatively, is to tell myself to "Let the ants out". I know it might sound silly, but it works, at least for me. I just visualize all my negative thoughts as ants scurrying around in my mind and I shoo them away, getting my mind to be clear again to let positive thoughts in. I learned this from my psychology professor years ago. She used the analogy of ants because negative thoughts tend to accumulate, just like ants do when they enter your home in search for food. Your mind needs clarity and calmness in order to think positive. Hopefully, these two ways can help you achieve that.

You should also try meditation. Make it a ritual habit so you can focus on positive thoughts and let go of stress.


stress on Jan 26, 2016 @ 03:04 pm

another great way to deal with your feelings is to get out in the fresh air. where we live the weather isn't the greatest but I have sorted out many problems going for a long walk. it helps me to deal with whatever is going on. fresh air is great too. And also as Pretty Rainbow says to speak in the forum and get it out in the open helps too....It has helped me as well and we have such an awesome group of chicks here to support us!

Depression on Jan 26, 2016 @ 04:47 pm

It's great that thinking positively works for you! Just remember though, you're not a failure if it doesn't.

One big problem I've had is people assuming I'm 'negative' if I talk about my problems or tell them I have depression. I'm totally honest, but I don't feel I'm particularly negative. I was as a teenager, but worked very hard to change my viewpoint.

However, I have HUGE problems with 'forced positivity' which is people telling you just to smile or focus on the good stuff or pretend it's all fine. It's healthy to be able to be negative and angry and get out our feelings at times and my problem with that technique of not allowing it is, this:

Many depressed people are forced daily to wear a mask of being fine and that is what can lead to suicide. They can't take the pretending anymore. I know this feeling personally.

So as long as you are finding it helps you and not forcing yourself to be positive to the detriment of your health, I am absolutely fine with it!

But make sure you have someone you can talk to when you're down without judgement. Hang in there!

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