on Oct 13, 2015 @ 06:18 pm|
This obviously is a personal issue, but I'm curious. At what age do you think a child should no longer require a bottle and soother? Many of you will say when he/she is ready. My opinion (no offence) is when a child is walking, talking, deterous enough to grasp, a plastic cup should be introduced, and the soother thrown away. I have seen so many chuildren that I feel; and not just me, too old and ridiculous looking to be walking around with a soother.
|. on Oct 14, 2015 @ 12:00 am|
I have the same opinion as you. If the child has progressed to the next milestone, then they should be ready to "graduate", as I like to say. I once had a parent of a kindergarten student tell me that she would allow her daughter to suck on a pacifier at night because it was what would help her fall asleep. I couldn't believe it! This isn't doing anything for the child's self esteem. Can you imagine this child telling her friends about it in class?
The child needs to understand from a young age that come a certain time, we need to move on to the next step. We play with different toys, eat different foods, have different responsibilities based on our age. I wouldn't want any parent to force it upon their child because that isn't healthy either, but it does warrant the proper discussion in the language the child is ready to understand.
I would suggest cutting off the tip of the pacifier so that the child will notice that they can't suck on it properly. They'll be more likely to discard of it on their own accord.
|bottles and soothers on Oct 14, 2015 @ 01:13 am|
Damn prettyrainbow, you're smart. I'm not being sarcastic; you ARE You always seem to have good input for us, love it.
|:) on Oct 15, 2015 @ 02:28 am|
You're too kind! I'm grateful you're appreciating my input. Sometimes I can get carried away with writing paragraphs upon paragraphs but when it's a topic I'm passionate about, I can't help myself. I'm so happy to have found a community of great women who can appreciate a good discussion! You've been presenting us with amazing topics and I look forward to the next. Take care! :)
|To each his/her own on Oct 15, 2015 @ 03:10 pm|
Each child is different and each child learns a certain stage at his or her own pace.As parents,we need to be prepared to help things along when it comes to bottles and soothers,but not to be over pushy.
And as long as the child is weaned from bottle and soothers before school age,what does it really matter? No where on his or her resume will it state at what age the child gave these things up
Be in less of a rush to grow up your child the way you think he or she needs too and more proactive in learning what and when your child needs during each stage of growth
|kids on Oct 16, 2015 @ 01:39 am|
Definitely, bd42! You brought up two great points. Every child is different and will wean off of the bottle/soothers at different times, but it's important it happens before school age. I think that's the key. There comes a point where the child should be ready to move on to other stages of their development and maturity. It's about going with the flow and preparing them along the way for those changes. Great answer!
|soothers on Mar 02, 2016 @ 05:57 pm|
You can remove this if anyone finds it offensive BUT I can't stand to see kids of a certain age walking around sucking on a soother and to top it off in a diaper. After the age of two, it is disgusting.For those that are offended, not to worry I'm sure it could be removed to suit you and I do apologize. BUT,if a person feels strongly on a subject they should be allowed to say so.
|. on Mar 02, 2016 @ 07:53 pm|
You all have great points. I believe children should be well off the so others and bottles by school age. When a child is capable of holding a cup I don't think they should have a bottle. A soother to me is for infants and by 2 years old I think they should be gone. It is hard to take it away but it is just like potty training. You just have to do it. Kids need to learn.
|. on Mar 02, 2016 @ 08:43 pm|
I took my son off of bottles just after his first birthday, and his soother just about the same time. His teeth were starting to come through and I didn't want him to have any issues with them. I think that taking them off early is the best way to go and not cause a dependency on them. But every parent is different.
|Hmmmm on Mar 02, 2016 @ 11:03 pm|
Well, I'd say there certainly IS a point when bottles and soothers are to infantile for a kid, I'd say 2.5ish would be my bottle cut off. My kids wouldn't take soothers. But, we do not know everyone's circumstance - is child delayed by some physical or mental condition not visible to us as outsiders, is there home turmoil like divorce, abuse or a death, is child very attached to it and refuses to drink anything BUT a bottle and mom has tried only to have a dehydrated and cranky 15 month old by the end of the week so she has her own set cutoff date to slowly switch over to a sippy cup or quit the bottle cold turkey by that date.
To me, judging a parent because their baby is still drinking whatever from a bottle when they are walking and saying a few words is nearly as bad as judging a mother for breast or formula feeding or choosing cloth or disposable diapers or co-sleeping or having baby in their own room. It is not your business. Granted to see a 5 year old with a bottle or soother would be wrong and in fair to the child, a kid 2 or under is not as big a deal. I'd hesitate to tell parents that you are 'disgusted' by their toddlers soother or bottle use. Perhaps, just perhaps, they may find your judging disgusting and offensive as well. But, I do try to give parents the benefit of the doubt in such instances because I HAVE been there with 2 determined and spirited kids who didn't want to give up their bottle at 1. So, I let the first have it until the day after their second birthday! As she's just fine. My 22 month old is getting hers taken away the same time as my first. We are slowly switching to sippy. It's not worth having a big uproar. She will get off it. And, if it's not hurting her or me, why should it bother you?
|Back story on Mar 02, 2016 @ 11:16 pm|
This irritates me a bit, because recently, my 22 month old was playing with another girl of similar age. Her mom kept making comments to dad about 'can you believe that mom is STILL letting her drink a bottle' 'how awful' and the like. I tried to ignore her but finally gave her a look. She just kept on and then asked me if I didn't think my daughter should finally be weaned. I didn't know how to respond so I just said 'well, I could take it away but then this 3 hour flight we are about to be on together would get veeeeery long'. She didn't respond. Not trying to be a hag, but I'm so tired of women judging women and parents judging parents. Sure it's human but can't we try to support and uplift each other? Myself included in supporting others choices.