|Baby on May 04, 2015 @ 07:02 pm|
Congratulations!! That;s so exciting :)
This might sound weird because I don't actually have kids yet, but I was a nanny for a few families so I have a fair amount of experience with small children under 3. It was funny because some parents were super chill and laid back, while there were some other super high strung parents. There was one woman who was obsessed about her kid's bowel movements. The kid was about 1 1/2, and I had to write down the colour, consistency, and amount of baby doodles every time he soiled his diaper. And at the same time, I had to write down exactly what and how much he ate, and at what time. It was ridiculous. And the pediatrician had told her a million times there was nothing wrong with the kid and that all of that was unnecessary. So just...chill? Haha, I know that sounds strange, but I think sometimes first time moms can be a bit high strung when it's not necessary. I know that it's scary because it's your first time and you're worried, but there is a line between being healthily concerned and absolutely ridiculous. So I guess what I'm trying to say is one baby product you don't need is a poop journal.
What I do recommend is Aveeno's baby product line. I worked with kids with super sensitive skin, and Aveeno was the only thing that was gentle enough for their skin. Even if your baby doesn't have that problem, Aveeno is still a great line for kids since it's gentle and relatively affordable.
Hope all things go well with your delivery! :)
|Baby :) on May 04, 2015 @ 07:45 pm|
Oh my goodness!! That is so exciting congrats, I wish you all the best of luck. I am not a mom myself but I have babysat a few times. My tips would be it is a lot better to breast feed(I get told by my mom all the time) if you don't feel comfortable then bottle feeding is fine too. Also make sure you have everything ready to go, like the bedroom and crib, stroller, baby seat, toys, blankets, clothing, bathing products, that's all I can think of for now!
I know that Johnson's makes really good baby products, they smell really nice and work to keep their skin feeling soft and clean. :)
Once again good luck!! I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy.
|Thankyou! on May 04, 2015 @ 08:41 pm|
Thanks soo much for the advice and lol to the baby doodoo story that's crazy and I have everything already I was so excited I went baby shopping crazy !! Thanks for the congrats :)
|Your welcome! on May 04, 2015 @ 09:10 pm|
You must be so excited and happy! It's good that you are prepared :) the shopping must have been so much fun.
|Congratulations! on May 04, 2015 @ 09:31 pm|
A first child is So much fun! Once baby is born, for those first few weeks try to sleep when baby sleeps and eat little snacks whenever he/she eats. House work can always wait until the next day, your baby needs you. Treat the first few months like a 4th trimester and you will be right on track.
Don't use a bunting bag, anything that goes between the car seat and the baby that hasn't been tested with the car seat is a safety hazard.
|Congratulations! on May 04, 2015 @ 09:47 pm|
Congratulations, and good luck on the delivery. I hope it goes smoothly for you as it didn't with me.
I personally use Live Clean products. I like that there's no added chemicals and it's more natural than Johnson's brand. It's a few cents more expensive than Johnson, but I think it's worth it.
Honestly I found the advice of sleeping when the baby sleeps so inane. Because your baby can sleep anywhere from 5 minutes to 15 to 3 hours (or 12 as we found out the first time it happened and we waited up for hours and hours for him to wake up and get hungry at his usual time). My advice is to wait on the housework. That really does not need to be done right away.
If anyone is nice enough to actually offer to help you, take them up on that offer and put them to work! Ask them to get you something to eat. Ask them to do your laundry, clean the bathroom, run out to the store and get you things or formula, etc.
Don't buy more than you need. I didn't buy a single article of clothing, diaper or toy for my first son (he's 4 months today and I still have one and a half boxes of diapers left that friends and relatives donated, so we haven't bought any diapers yet). It was all donated and completely free. I found I preferred the zippered onesies with feet (my baby was born in the winter, yours may need something cooler). They were the easiest to get on and off, no fuss.
|Thanks!!!!! on May 05, 2015 @ 06:56 am|
Omg thankyou all for the good advice ! That's actually really helpful I don't really have any friends with kids so it was good to get an opinion! I'm so excited !
|First Baby on May 05, 2015 @ 11:43 am|
Just take one day at a time. Schedules are necessary. A healthy baby easts and sleeps well. Try to keep a schedule. It might not be perfect but close is good enough. Of you are out and the baby is not going to get to bed for an hour, chill it will be okay. Do not try to do everything like everyone's else. Some say no sugar, othersd lots of sugar. Let your baby join your life! Do not join the baby life! Baby life grows up and your life will always be their. The most important thing is the time you spend with your child and the things you do together! Everyone makes mistakes and I am sure you will also. My mother raised twelve children and over fifty foster children. She would be the first to tell you that no two are the same. Some fed every two hours, others three times a day. Some loved to be cuddled, others liked to lie down and kick. Blanket sleepers (sleepers that look like a sleeping bah on the bottom) allow the baby to grow and kick freely in bed keeping therm warm all the time. You don't have to worry about the blanket. Enjoy your bundle of joy and give them all the love. There will be times you wonder what to do, just be calm, calm calm. It will all come to you!!!! You will be a great mom. Favorite things are burp pads and bibs. Save a lot on changing and outfits!
|. on May 05, 2015 @ 01:56 pm|
I'll second bibs. I didn't think I'd use them as much as I do now. For the last month I think he's started pre-teeting so he's drooling like crazy and likes to play with his bib and put it in his mouth. Wearing a bib all day (I take it off when he naps) isn't cute, but it saves on having to change his clothes when they get super wet and uncomfortable for him (the cloth kind were fine at first, but I prefer the ones that have a waterproof backing, it's crinkly -which my baby likes to play with, and it takes longer to soak through).
And get *large* burp clothes. Not the dinky little ones that are cute. My favourite burp clothes are giant clothes, about the size of a big paper towel square. They catch all his spit up. Your baby may not have that problem, but it's worth being prepared.
We didn't bother with a schedule. When the baby is brand new and up until he goes past his birth weight, you have to wake him up to feed on a schedule. But once he's big enough, you don't need to wake him up anymore. I was told by my midwife that he should be waken up at 5 hours, but my boy is pretty big for his age so I know he's fine. If he's sleeping, I'm sure not going to wake him. Now we find that he usually naps around 11sh and again at about 3 or so. So once he starts getting fussy, or before that when we notice him rubbing his eyes or yawning, we put him down to nap. He'll cry, sometimes he'll actually scream bloody murder for 5 minutes straight (they seriously fight sleeping sometimes), but then he's out like a light.
Every single baby is different, even in the same family. When I have my second, he or she might not sleep through the night as easily as this little guy. And maybe he or she won't need naps, or maybe they'll need lots of naps. This guy is also unique in that since he was born he only liked to be held for a short while before he started complaining and he was happier to be left to his own devices in the crib. I might be unlucky with my second one and have a very high needs baby that has to be held all the time.
Whatever happens, you deal with it and you make it work. If you have a partner, lean on them and get them to help you and the baby. I never ever went through a period where I didn't have a shower for days or I didn't eat all day. Because my husband looked after the baby for me and allowed me to take care of myself while he bonded with his son.
Also, just a heads up in case no one else has shared this with you (everyone tends to stay mum about it like it's a dirty secret). You may not fall in love with your baby when you first see him or her. You might not even fall in love within the week. Or month. For some people it takes time. They say if you don't start feeling budding feelings after 3 months have passed, then you may need to speak to a doctor about possible postpartum depression. For me it took about 3 months or so before I started feeling *something*. I'm still not sure if I love him, but I definitely enjoy and like him more than I did when he was younger, and that's a good start for me. I had a very unusual birth situation though since I was hospitalized for a month and I've got 2 years of recovery left because of the second surgery I had after the c-section. So I found it very hard to connect with my son and bond with him. I really hope you have a much easier time of it.