on Jun 23, 2016 @ 04:49 pm|
I'm a foster mama in Ontario, and when people find out I generally get asked a lot of questions about how to get started and what to expect. So if anyone here has any questions please don't hesitate to ask. I'm happy to offer advice and answer questions to the best of my ability!
|. on Jun 23, 2016 @ 05:32 pm|
Thank you and welcome :)
Is there any sort of special education one has to undergo in order to become a foster parent?
|. on Jun 23, 2016 @ 05:38 pm|
No special education required, you do however go through a 9 week program with the Children's Aid Society (may have a different name in other areas). It's very basic information, e.i., how to deal with certain kids, what to expect, rules that have to be followed, etc.
They also offer classes throughout the year, they're not mandatory but the more classes you take the better off you are. And all costs are covered by CAS. :)
|abrakic on Jun 24, 2016 @ 02:24 am|
I admire you for doing that, just wonderful
|!!! on Jun 24, 2016 @ 07:21 am|
Are there money requirements. I want very badly to be a foster mother when my kids are grown (I haven't had them yet), but worry if the financial requirements are very high I wouldn't be able to.
Do you have your own kids as well/worry about them being put in a possibly dangerous situation?
What's the no1 advice you would give to someone considering this in the future?
Thanks so much for answering my questions and also you're a wonderful person to do this!
|. on Jun 24, 2016 @ 02:09 pm|
@Irememberu Thank you! It's a lot of work but it's the most rewarding thing, I encourage anyone that has thought about it to look further into it. There is a lot of need and not nearly enough homes.
There is no specific financial requirements, you just have to be able to stand on your own financially. Anything and everything the foster kids need is covered by CAS. Each child receives a monthly credit for you to use on them, for food, clothing, medicine, etc. This won't by any means make you money, but they more than help with the children in your care. They provide allowances for camps, extra school help and even vacations. (I've taken 2 sets of siblings that stayed with me for over a year to Disney with my family and CAS helped cover some costs for them).
I have a 15 year old sister, who has been around foster kids since she was 7, we've never had any issues, she does however have her own room. Some kids we get into our care are aggressive, but with time, consistency and care they make a quick turn around. So to answer your question in short lol (I tend to talk a lot haha) I have never worried about having my sister around the kids. You get to know the children, their behaviours and issues they deal with quick, which makes problem solving easy.
Number one advice is to just do it. Don't doubt your abilities, don't let anything hold you back. Most of these kids come from horrible situations, so anything you do for them helps, and the thing they want most is time, consistency and love. Don't get me wrong, it's not all pretty rainbows and butterflies. Ive been called many names, cleaned up a lot of messes, had stuff broken, and dealt with some not so friendly bio parents. But it's all worth it, especially when you see them growing into amazing little people.
Oh, also, patience hahah. you need LOTS of it. When kids come into care, they go through whats called a honeymoon stage, it normally last 3-4 weeks. They behave like little angels. But then they get comfortable with you, and start pushing boundaries. So have lots of patience and hold your ground. The first few months are the most important for you to establish rules, consequences and rewards.
Anytime. Happy to help, don't hesitate to ask anything. The more informed people are the better it is :)
|. on Jun 25, 2016 @ 01:57 am|
Aaaaah I can't wait. Thanks so much for the advice!
If anything, the only thing holding me back is my lack of experience, but once I have my own kids I'll be a lot more confident.
I find it strange that more people don't want to do it. For me, I always longed to be a mom and when my own kids are older I'd love to be able to help out kids who never had that sense of love and belonging.
It's also a big relief to hear you get help, as I would obviously want to be able to take care of the foster kids like they were my own!