on Oct 03, 2013 @ 12:35 am|
So i went to the drs yesterday and found out im 1 month pregnant. This will be my 5th child. I already have twin girls that are 6 and a 3 year old girl and a 2 year old girl. the twins are home schooled and 2 year old is in the terrible 2`s. I think its bad timing cause my husband isnt working that much and i think 4 is alot of kids already. I dont know what to do. Im so sick right now with morning sickness i cant seem to get off the couch some times.
|GOOO Mommy! on Oct 04, 2013 @ 09:06 am|
Hugs. What a supermom! I hired a nanny for a bit. He was a friend so the trust factor was there. Hang in there and are you considering getting your tubes tied after? One more beautiful baby that will have the honor of having you as a mom. Crackers and lots of them in the morning before you get out of bed helps the nausea. I had it bad too and i feel your discomfort to say the least.Please keep posting throughout your pregnancy. I would love to follow. You got this girl. You are a dedicated, tough and awesome mom to be homeschooling and have basically your own soccer team! lol You got this!
|accept help on Oct 04, 2013 @ 10:09 am|
First of all, congratulations! I am sure you are going crazy right now and are intimidated by the amount of work ahead, but once Baby arrives you will of course be absolutely in love with him or her and it will all seem worth it in the end.
That said, I can only imagine how stressful this must be. Morning sickness is bad enough on its own but even more so with such a full house.
Do you have support available from friends or family? I am the type who doesn't like asking for help (though I would surely accept it gratefully if offered), and if there are people who want to lend a hand, you should take them up on it.
Homeschooling is a wonderful choice and I'm sure your kids are doing very well... but maybe it's time to consider regular school? Even if it's temporary until your schedule frees up a little more? Just a thought.
Society puts a lot of pressure on moms to do Everything Perfectly Every Time but of course this is stupid. Back in the old days, people had an elderly aunt or grandma living with them who was able to help out with the kids, and it was a simpler time when you could boot the children out into the village to go play all day long without much supervision.
What I'm saying is, cut yourself some slack. Accept help if offered, and I hope too that your husband can find more work to help financially support your family.
Speaking of finances, you could try couponing and strict menu planning, clothes swaps (including snowsuits, sporting equipment, etc) and thrifting, carpooling and recycling to bring your household costs down somewhat.
Good luck, and I hope your morning sickness eases up soon!
|re: on Oct 04, 2013 @ 02:03 pm|
Yeah im going to get my tubes tied after but im kinda scared to get it done.im hoping they will do it cause im only 24 i dont know if they will. im just worried i wont have the energy to deal with all of it.
|Tube Tying on Oct 04, 2013 @ 05:44 pm|
If you have children already they will tie your tubes without any concern about age, so talk to your doctor.
Also, you need to talk to your husband, tell him you need more of his help when it comes to the children and the housework. If he is not working much he needs to step up to the plate - it does take two to make children.
The biggest thing - you are female - we are automatically genetically disposed to be able to deal with things the average man cannot, just remember - you can do it. Do you know other mums? Try getting a group together for support and help, one can trade babysitting for something else - homemade food, freezer meals, everybody is good at something.