on Nov 16, 2009 @ 05:43 pm|
So my hubby and I have been married for about a year and half. Last year we planned to wait until the summer to start trying to get pregnant. So in the spring I went off Yaz and in the end of July we started trying. My sister-in-law came to me in June and said they were going to get pregnant in Aug and so was her husband's sister and wouldn't it be fun if we all were at the same time. Well here we are in November, they are both due in May and we're still trying. Not that anyone knows because I just smiled when she said that and said, oh, we'll see I guess. She doesn't realize that people don't just get pregnant like she does. This is their second child and with both they just said oh let have one and boom, she was pregnant.
I'm so frustrated! We have 2 teachers at school who are pregnant. One had fertility problems and then other had a miscarriage last spring. The principal came to me several times this fall and hinted as to whether or not I was pregnant and told the whole staff that if anyone else will be on mat leave next year he needs to know as soon as possible. Well I'm the only other women at the table of the right age! I wanted to spit in his face. He can't ask that!!!
So every month we figure out rough ovulation days, time it right, pee on ovulation sticks which are stinking expensive, and then wait. Then I get crampy and nauseous and I can't take my favourite Advil until I start my period. The last two months I've been literally throwing up waiting to see if I can take Advil. I'm going to a holistic naturopath in December and hopefully she can do something to at least take the edge off the PMS.
I'm writing this to vent since no one other than my hubby and my Mum know we've been trying.
|Try not to worry on Nov 16, 2009 @ 08:05 pm|
It's not a race and no one should be making you feel bad about it, whether it's your sister in law or your principal. He's actually not allowed to say those things and I hope someone has already brought that to his attention.
Conception doesn't always happen right away. I know people who tried for 2 years or more before getting pregnant. This isn't really something you can control. Can you focus more on enjoying being a newlywed than allowing the pressure others are putting on you and the pressure you are putting on yourself to be your focus?
|cheap ovulation tests on Nov 19, 2009 @ 07:25 am|
Have you try buying ovulation tests from small local businesses? I don't know where you live, but in my city, there are a lot of cute little baby stores as well as specialized cloth diaper stores. I go to a local mom who runs a cloth diaper business in her basement. She sells ovulation tests for $2.25/test CDN (plus tax of course) and her pregnancy tests for $6.25/pkg (5 tests). I've tried both tests from her and they work like a charm. I know of another baby store (a real store, not someone's basement) in town also sells these pregnancy and ovulation tests for a comparable price. This is way cheaper than buying them from drug stores or even Walmart.
And I agree with the first poster. You can't rush these things. Just enjoy your time with your hubby and make this a fun experience for both of you. If you get too stressed out, then sex is just a means of making a baby, not something fun and special you share with your husband. I also know of people who has tried for a long time but eventually got pregnant (without means of fertility treatment) and gave birth to happy, healthy babies.
|I hear ya on Feb 21, 2010 @ 12:16 pm|
I have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years now and I have had the expereince of so many people around me saying something like 'I think we will get pregnant is Sept' next thing you know they are expecting and now they have had their second and I am still waiting to conceive. Other friends, it was an accident. I am finding this ordeal to be very frustrating. We have done all the doctor's appointments and have nothing wrong. And as for being asked or hinted at the question ..... when are you going to have kids .... I have found so many ways to change the subject before I get too uncomfortable. Sometimes I feel like screaming we have been trying and it just doesn't work - then at least they will stop asking. (I haven't told anyone that we are trying). Well sorry about this, I am having a bit of a rant, but like I said, I hear ya. It is so hard for some and seems so easy for others. Good luck and as I see this post was from a few months ago maybe things have already worked out.
|everyone has a different story on Feb 21, 2010 @ 10:47 pm|
My first baby was an oops and the second followed after 4 years of trying. The only one who went according to "plan" was baby #3 and even he was 4 or 5 months in the trying. I also know a couple who have had 5 kids pretty much exactly when they pegged them.
My advice to you is to do whatever you can to remove the pressure - via family (they love you, so you can afford to gently ask them to back off), via colleagues (shut them down by citing workplace regulations), and from yourselves. I know it's much easier said than done! But the more you stress about it and worry every month, the greater the disappointment. I have heard so many times over of couples who've tried everything from charting to IVF without success, then as soon as they decided to stop trying - bang. Pregnant within a very short time.
If you've both passed your fertility assessments, what remains? Your stress level.
Chin up, it'll happen!
|I agree on Feb 22, 2010 @ 11:48 am|
I agree with Mamaluv, everyone has a different story. I tried for an entire year before giving up & assuming that there was something wrong with me, next thing I knew, I was pregnant when I had least expected. I also know of someone who had tried in her mid fourties & although it took her a little over two years, she now has a healthy & beautiful one year old. Don't panic too much. Relax and enjoy your time while you can these things are harder said than done.
|same boat on Feb 23, 2010 @ 12:20 am|
I have been trying for 4 years now, and I completely understand your frustration. I think the biggest frustration, is when people keep asking, or when your friends who got pregnant after one month of it try to give you advise as to what time of month to try it.
As for the ovulation, have you tried just doing the basal temperature? you jsut take your temp every morning and whe you see your temp spike you are starting to ovulate.
And no matter what anyone says about the stress and the "stop trying and it will happen" doesnt make wanting to become a mother and start a family go away.
I have told a few close friends who have been nothing but supportive and sypathetic. Especially when other mutual friends get pregnant.
I dont have alot to add, just my own personal rant.
|2 years and counting on Mar 02, 2010 @ 06:56 pm|
I tried taking my temperature, but found it too difficult to be accurate. I have been trying ovulation tests that I get from my gyno (they are cheaper through her). So we are still trying the natural way, but I am starting to wonder how long I should wait until I try getting a bit of extra help? I am not much of one to take meds, but my gyno adviced that once all the tests come back negative (and they have) we should think of either taking meds or IVF. Not sure what to do....
Trying, ...2 years and counting
|trying on Feb 25, 2013 @ 01:26 am|
I was on yaz for 5 years. My husband and I got married in 2010 and
decided in 2012 to try to get prego. Now its 2013 and we are still
trying. We did all the right things this month and come 4/9 I should
have my period if we were not successful. Also, my cycle can be between
28 and 33 days. 1 year and counting.