A guy with commitment issues?

on Jan 04, 2013 @ 04:52 pm

I was dating this 33 year old guy who said most of his relationships end
within 3 months. His longest one was probably 3 months (officially) or 5
months (unofficially). He broke up with me a bit over a month into
dating and I didn't like that at all. Could it be that he has commitment
issues? To me, it seems a little odd for a guy to be that age and
haven't had a relationship that has lasted longer, like a year or so. He
said he just hasn't met the right girl so he ends things before when he
figures out he doesn't want to be too serious with her. For example,
with one girl he broke up with her before the summer because she wanted
to travel with him and he realized he didn't want to travel anywhere
with her.

Anyways, I'm just wondering if he has some issues and it's actually more him than me.

6 Replies

Ali de Bold
Strange on Jan 05, 2013 @ 11:16 am

Since he is the one ending relationships I do think it is strange given his age. I do agree you should end things when you know it's not the right match but at this point in life you think he'd at least have had one more serious relationship.
It's not about you. Move on and find someone who doesn't pride himself on ending relationships in 3 months or less.

Sorry on Jan 05, 2013 @ 02:41 pm

I think a man would commit if he is truly in love.....If you love someone you want to be with them/spend time/think about a future together etc. I'm very sorry this happened to you breakups are very painful.But you need to be honest with yourself that it wasn't meant to be and because he broke up with you that is much better then him stringing you along.The best thing you can do is try forget about him,move on and let yourself heal from the breakup.You will know when you meet the right one for you.You cant help him he needs to work out his own issues...Take Care

Don't Know on Jan 06, 2013 @ 12:39 am

I don't know about that Bren. If he is truly in love (though I'm not sure if someone can figure out they're truly in love in a month or 2), if a that person has commitment issues that person might be likely to run from it before exploring it. He/She is scared for whatever reason.

But I do agree that whatever the reason, I do have to move on because either way he's not into me or he's not capable of holding a long term relationship due to commitment issues.

I do agree with Ali. Weird considering that he's 33. Generally I think people would have at least one, if not a few relationships, that are beyond the first couple of months. I thought it was odd but I wasn't sure if it was just me.

not sure on Jan 06, 2013 @ 10:39 am

Ye, it must be more him than u, he seems like he don't really want to be in a serious relationship, if he's not that committed it's not your fault.
Maybe he had some kind of long year relationship and something bad happened....

Commitment or Unrealistic Standards? on Jan 07, 2013 @ 03:00 pm

At 33, you would expect that a relationship he'd have would last longer than 3 months. But I guess it all depends on what he wants or what is looking for. That being said, he could have commitment issues but it also sounds like he has some unrealisitc standards and notions about relationships. Like she wanted to travel and all of a sudden he decided that he wouldn't want to travel with her? How did he even know for sure?

In any case, it sounds like you should be glad to be rid of him. It totally sounds like he has some issues.


Hm.. on Jan 08, 2013 @ 10:44 am

Personally, if anyone that I was going to potentially date (serious relationship wise) told me that their longest relationship was only 3 months - I'd probably look the other way. Yes, he could definitely have some major committment issues. Or, he could simply be picky!

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