on May 05, 2015 @ 03:46 pm|
I don’t even know where to start. Me and my boyfriend have
Basically, it all started during her Birthday 4 years ago.
My concern is that I was trying to be nice to her, open up
|Wow.. on May 05, 2015 @ 06:40 pm|
This just sounds like a lot for you to handle, lots of drama with you and his sister which is not good at all. If he loves you then maybe he should talk to them about it and if they don't start being nice to you then I can't see how the situation would get any better. Have you tried to patch things up with them? Or are they always going to feel this hatred towards you? This sounds like such a toxic situation that should be worked through...
I don't know what else you tell you but he should tell his sister that he loves you so she should learn to love you too or at the very least respect you.
Goodluck with everything. Hope all goes well.
|Not okay on May 05, 2015 @ 07:10 pm|
This is obviously not a situation that is okay to just tolerate. Could you maybe talk to her mom? Not like in a tattle-tale way, but to find some possible common ground, or find out how to make things better
|Odd on May 05, 2015 @ 11:54 pm|
The sister in this situation sounds like a very sad, insecure person. There maybe some deeper issues here, a lot of the time when people are not happy in their own lives they like to cause drama in other peoples lives to make themselves feel better. She is probably very close with her brother and he maybe the only person who tolerates her special type of crazy hence why she is very protective over him.
I've had my own problems with family over the years and I have felt that keeping them at arms length is the best way to deal with them. Keep interactions short and sweet, just try and avoid any sort of confrontations with the person. Reach out to the mom and brother and see if there is a possible way to find something in common you two may have. Your boyfriend should however try to help you in some way by sticking up for you, by him not telling her that her behaviour is not okay is just encouraging her to continue to act the way she does and it's not okay
|Yikes on May 20, 2015 @ 10:31 pm|
Well, clearly the Mom has at least a bit of an idea that her daughter is a piece of work since she warned you to be careful because the sis hates you. Sad thing is, if you marry your bf, his family comes with him. Which would be okay if he stood up for you, but that does not sound like to be the case. That would bother me immensely. I mean you don't ever have to see her, but even if you do avoid her, if you'll have kids, your bf (hubby) will more than likely take them for family events which will include her...and she might be talking against you in front of the poor little souls and they won't understand a thing. This is something that I think should be brought up with your bf before you make any moves forward. Imagine fighting with your hubby in front of the kids about something like this - not cool.
In some ways it sounds like the sister could really use some counseling but I would imagine she won't go for that will she.
In all honesty I think things should start with your bf telling her to leave you alone because you are the one he is planning on spending the rest of his life with. If he cannot do that, you basically have two options - and I don't meant to sound harsh, it just is what it is, either you suck it up that she treats you the way she does, or you send your bf packing and look for another life partner...I honestly hope your bf can stand up for you. As much as I understand he feels sorry for her, there is really no excuse for her behavior.