on Nov 06, 2008 @ 04:56 am|
my boyfriend is extremely arrogant and stubborn....whenever we have an argument (big or small) he just seems to not do anything first,like say sorry (obviously when its his fault) or even say goodnight or goodmorning...i really cant handle it because i find it so annoying that i have to end up talking to a brick wall who cant EVER communicate about issues.i try all the time but it seems as though arrogance is part of who he is. how do i handle this childish behaviour?
Ali de Bold
|Congratulations! on Nov 06, 2008 @ 10:08 am|
You are dating a Man. They are kind of all like that. It's really frustrating when they go into 'brick wall mode' but the more you push the more stubborn they become.
When he gets like that, you will need to ignore him. It will be impossibly hard because you want him to react to you and to communicate with you but it's not going to happen. Give him some space and then have a calm discussion in a couple of hours later when neither of you are angry. Tell him you are tired of being the one doing all of the communicating and that he needs to be able to say sorry every now and then. Keep it simple and to the point. The more emotional you become and the more you say the more he will tune out.
If that doesn't work, pick up a copy of Why Men Love Bitches (Sherry Argov). Seriously, that book is brilliant and it does work. ;)
|hahaha on Nov 06, 2008 @ 10:47 am|
thanks miss chickie...i can tell just by the title why i think men would love bitches:) its just so frustrating that i always need to tell him i would like him to communicate.i really feel like im gonna stop though because it makes me feel like a pest...i think im gonna grab that book asap:)
Ali de Bold
|I have it on Nov 06, 2008 @ 10:51 am|
And I constantly go back and read it and have lent it to so many friends. Pearls of wisdom. Pearls of wisdom.
|blech on Nov 06, 2008 @ 07:46 pm|
you didn't have to POISON the poor girl, chickie. that said, it's probably going to work.
|thanks misschickie! on Nov 06, 2008 @ 11:41 pm|
I seriously need to pick up that book. I think I can be a bitch but my boyfriend is a complete stubborn asshole, and it is almost impossible to get him to acknowledge his faults. I've tried ignoring him, for days, even weeks but he never seems to get it. When we do finally speak, it usually is because of me initiating the talk and then he finally will acknowledge that he's done something wrong. But then he goes back to his stubborn self. He makes me so mad sometimes, I just want to claw his face!!!
|same here on Nov 07, 2008 @ 09:48 am|
thats the exact same situation with me...wow...i havnt attempted ignoring for weeks but it was on my list of things to do...but thanks for telling us that...now i know il be wasting my time hehe