Aunt dating baby daddy, any advice !!


bubbles77
on Aug 24, 2012 @ 09:27 pm

Recently found out my Aunt, my moms sister has secretly been dating my baby daddy. I am in shock people. Any suggestions, I am totally blown away. So many emotions running through me, I need some sound advice from objective minds.

Thanks in advance !!
 


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Ali de Bold
That's horrible on Aug 28, 2012 @ 08:41 am

I'm sorry but your aunt is way out of line. Not only is that a violation of girl code, as your aunt she is also supposed to look out for you and protect you. I think you need to address this with her or get your mom to help.
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AlexJC
Yikes! on Aug 28, 2012 @ 10:39 am

Wow- that seems a bit unnecessary, were there no other men out there for her?

I would say that you should take to her about it, but then, at the same time, she is an adult, he is an adult and I am not sure that you can "forbid" them from seeing each other. It's pretty disrespectful of her to do this definitely though. What was your relationship with her like before this happened? Do you still want a relationship with either of them (baby daddy or aunt)?
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takoda
I'm sorry your going through this! on Aug 28, 2012 @ 11:14 am

This is just awful and I can only imagine what you’re feeling. Your mind must being going in a million different directions right now. Is she close to your age? Not that it matter's, she shouldn't be any where near your X no matter what her age is. If anything she should be supporting you through your split with him! I'd say try and clear the air as soon as you can, but be the bigger person. I know it will be hard, but try not to scream at her. Just sit her down and ask her why she would do this to you and why on earth she would think it would be alright with you. As I recall you have mentioned that you have a 14 year old daughter at home. If she knows about this it must be making her feel awful as well. Try and explain to your Aunt how awkward this is going to make things between you and your x when dealing with things to do with your daughter. Also how awkward it will be for your daughter. I really don't know what else to say here because I've never been through it myself. I sure hope everything works out for you and something we've said here helps you out. I'm very sorry you have to go through this, big hugs to you!!
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mamaluv
what is the backstory? on Aug 28, 2012 @ 01:08 pm

I have to play devil's advocate for a moment and voice an unpopular opinion to say that the "girl code" only goes so far. How long have you been broken up with your ex? How close are you to your aunt? If it's been a long time since your split and you and aunt aren't that chummy, what is the real reason you're so upset? Of course, if it's a recent split and you are close with your aunt, that's different. We can't help our attractions, though we can help our actions. It does pain me though to see some potentially amazing couples kept apart because of a "rule" that can be unfairly applied sometimes.
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KatelynRose1984
Ouch. on Sep 05, 2012 @ 05:56 pm

I honestly don't know what to say. I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through something like this! For one, I definitely think your aunt is breaking the "Girl Code" - but, I would also like to know what her side of the story is. I'd definitely be heartbroken, even if he was my Ex!
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