on Jan 11, 2011 @ 06:03 am|
i have a problem which i need your two cents on. i have been dating a guy basically for the last 3months. Recently we got intimate and i have an issue with his "techniques". he doesn't give ample time for foreplay, he is just rearing to go. so after the 1st attempt i think he realized i wasnt satisfied. the next time we got intimate he devoted all but 5minutes to foreplay. when i told him i wasnt ready yet..he said "please show me where to touch u".....i found this odd cause i felt like i was instructing a child in class....not a man who is making love to a woman....i personally like it when partners explore each others bodies and see what arouses them...however when i suggested this...he was like..."just tell me what u want and i'll do it"..!!!!
Sigh...What is a girl to do?
|explore to your heart's content! on Jan 12, 2011 @ 03:22 pm|
speaking from experience i would say the best thing to do to avoid any more sexual frustration would be to just make a game out of it, depending on how daring you want to go...
do a little simon says by caressing his stomach, and have him do the same to you... you get the idea.
you can always incorporate whip cream and apply them where you want to be touched, licked, etc.
|no hints on Jan 12, 2011 @ 03:28 pm|
Plain and simple, men don't take hints. They are simple creatures so hints and suggestions may not work. Some men respond much better w/ blunt direction. It may seem unromantic in the throes of passion, but go ahead and help him. Tell him next time he asks. Once he knows your buttons he won't have to ask anymore and he'll know just how to touch you. Then hopefully the foreplay will be as sensual and romantic as you envision it to be.
Ali de Bold
|Tell him what works for you on Jan 13, 2011 @ 11:30 am|
I completely agree with Spotty. It's all about direction. The fact that he's asking you what you like is a good sign. That means you can help him. Everyone is different and it's probably intimidating for him trying to please you. Just guide him where you want him to go or tell him what works for you.
Personally, I think it's best to hold off intimacy for as long as possible. Once you really know each other, these situations are less awkward and much more meaningful :).