on Mar 13, 2013 @ 11:02 am|
So BF and I was about to go bed and last night, we turning off the TV, heading to the bed room.
I started to stretch and yawned and it sounded like a sex noise.
BF turns around and said you said " so now you sound like your cumming"
I turn around and said that's not the noise I make.
He then said your right you don't make any noise at all do you.
Has anyone ever been in my shoes??
Most the times we have sex he aint hitting the right spots, so sadly I won't fake an orgasm for him.
So most the times I don't make the noise that porn stars are payed to make.
Should I be more vocal even though hes not pleasing me??
|Give and Take on Mar 13, 2013 @ 11:51 am|
If he isn't pleasing you, then should you be responsible to fake it? No, I don't think so. Have you ever tried talking to him about what you want? It takes two to be in a relationship and its give and take so talk to him about what you want and in return, you'll be able to give him what he wants.
|ohh, this is tricky on Mar 13, 2013 @ 01:57 pm|
First off, no - you should not need to fake it. In fact, I think many guys (if they were able to answer honestly) would prefer we not fake it since then they'd never know if their lady's reaction was genuine or not. I'm sure it's very embarrassing for a guy to find out their GF doesn't enjoy his moves.
Secondly, it was a really crude and dumb thing of him to say. You are right to be put off by the comment. He should apologize but I'm guessing (a) he'll be embarrassed and (b) he feels justified in having said it.
However, it's my experience that some sarcastic remarks have a basis in hurt feelings. Most guys really enjoy (even need) the ego boost that comes with a woman's vocal feedback in bed. He's definitely aware that he's not getting the job done where you're concerned and I'd bet he feels really low about that.
Ultimately, if you are just passively lying there and allowing him to finish off without coaching him in what pleasures you, how is he supposed to know what you want? Have you told him "why don't you try this" or "don't stop doing ___"?
You should take a more active role in your bedroom activities instead of resenting him as he fumbles around getting nowhere with you. Really, it's a win/win situation!
Ali de Bold
|Tell him what you like on Mar 13, 2013 @ 10:00 pm|
I agree with what has already been said. It takes two to tango. You need to speak up about what you like. Teach him how to please you. Do it in an encouraging way where you compliment him when he does something you like. Ask him to do more of it or get him to try new positions until you find something that works for both of you. A Kama Sutra book is a great way to tactfully encourage him to try new moves that work for both of you. Just be really careful to always be positive about it as egos are very delicate in the bedroom on both sides. Focus on saying things like I like it when you do this rather than I don't like this, etc.
|Tell him! on Mar 14, 2013 @ 08:01 am|
I completely agree with these ladies. You need to tell him what you like! Honestly, most guys dig the fact that a woman will tell him her secrets.. as they WANT to please you!
As for faking orgasms, I'm not really much for it - but I don't shame on it either.
|Let loose! on Mar 14, 2013 @ 09:18 am|
I would be hurt also if my boyfriend said something like that to me. Like mamaluv said, he's surely self-conscious about how he's pleasuring you and him making that comment doesn't help. You both should work with each other like you do in everything else in the relationship. I'd say faking a noise here and there isn't a bad thing though. I think it's all part of playing around and having fun in your relationship.