on Apr 23, 2009 @ 02:53 pm

A few weeks ago this guy came into the place I work at to fix our phones. It's an office rule that when someone is in fixing stuff, one of us has to stay with them. They asked me to, and so I started talking to the guy, kind of flirting (he was cute!) and I thought he was flirting back but I wasn't sure.
Then when he was done fixing our phones he asked for my email address! I was happy about that, obviously, but played it cool, gave it to him and then he wrote it down.
Usually when someone asks for your email it's because they want to email you, right? Well apparently not! Cause I have not heard anything from him. And he's been back where I work twice more now again fixing our phones. The first time he came back he came over to chat with me and said he still had my email just that he'd been "really busy." I was thinking, how busy are you that you couldn't send a five second email, but okay. Since he had mentioned something I was expecting/thinking he'd actually email me, but nope!
Last time he was back was the beginning of this week. He just said hey and asked how I was doing, I said fine and then ignored him the rest of the time he was there.
Sorry this is so long but I guess what I'm wondering is, is this like a common thing? Was I way off base in thinking that asking for my email was his way of expressing interest? And why would he bother asking for it if he had no intention of using it?
Men - so confusing, I tell ya!

6 Replies

Ali de Bold
Changed his mind on Apr 23, 2009 @ 08:35 pm

It sounds like he changed his mind for whatever reason. Maybe he wasn't available and was pretending like he was. Just don't pay any attention to him and leave it at that.

maybe.... on Apr 24, 2009 @ 05:31 pm

Maybe he did change his mind, or maybe he's just a flirt, and asking for your email was an extension of his flirtyness?

I'm reading "he's just not that into you" for the upteenth time and what you said sounds like a letter right out of the book! I think should Greg Behrendt read your post, he will say "he's just not that into you"

hang in there girl, the right guy will come along... the one who will take your email address / phone number / blackberry pin # / etc and actually use it!!! :)


thank you! on Apr 25, 2009 @ 01:33 pm

thanks for the feedback, ladies :)

I was kind of thinking to myself that he probably does have a
girlfriend, as I have this random and unfortunate habit of attracting
guys that are already taken. Or that he's just one of those email

Either way, I'm not actually upset that he didn't email me, more just
bothered by the fact that he didn't want to email me - and then made
lame excuses. It's like, if you aren't interested that's totally fine,
but why lie about it?
And I haven't read he's just not that into you, yet. Been meaning to for awhile - now that it's summer I may actually have time

It's happened to me a few times on Apr 27, 2009 @ 10:18 pm

I've had that happen to me a few times. I give the guy my e-mail or phone number and he doesn't contact me. I don't think it's a big deal but why ask if you're not going to pursue anything?

A few reasons guys have told me, since all have happened to them, are:
1) He lost it (although in your case if he's been there again he obviously hasn't lost it)
2) Not interested anymore
3) Too shy to actually contact you beyond getting your actual contact info.
4) He's actually really busy.
5) He forgot.

If you are interested in him why not just get his contact info and ask him out?

Wow! on Apr 29, 2009 @ 11:18 am

Dating has changed! We're asking for e-mail addresses now?

Anonymous 3546
With the gang on this one on Apr 29, 2009 @ 08:52 pm

There are all sorts of reasons why he may have changed his mind. Unfortunately we can't always know why and just have to accept the circumstances as they are. Luckily it did not happen after a few dates :-)

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