on Mar 12, 2009 @ 03:32 pm|
my dad told me to breakup with my bf he gave me a good enough reason to but i didnt want to anyways i did though. but i want him back. we were together before but i brokeup with him because of the same reason. then we got back together but then i broke with him again. for the same reason but this time there was another reason i was afraid i was falling In LOVE with him and i didn't want to get hurt. but i hurt in so many ways he always respected what i wanted but i never really gave him what he wanted. i want to get back with him what do i do this is the third time we get back together if we do, im scared hes going to reject me. he won't talk to me, we walk buy each other all he does is give this look. idk.i miss him. the reason why he won't talk to me because that same day he was going to tell me he LOVED ME!!!! and that he really meant it and this was going to be the first he had ever said that to a girl.i fell so bad that i broke up with him. I WISH I NEVER DID but all i have right now is MY FATHER!!!!!
Ali de Bold
|Dad's are usually right on Mar 12, 2009 @ 11:26 pm|
That sucks, sorry to hear you are going through this. But, being a bit older now, I'd say assuming you have a decent relationship with your Dad, he really does have your best interests at heart.
Regardless of what Dad says, if this guy really loved you he wouldn't ignore you now. He wouldn't be able to. Take your Dad's advice and move on. There will be plenty of other boys...
|Agree with MissChickie..... on Mar 14, 2009 @ 10:46 am|
I'm sure if your dad is telling you to breakup with this guy, there is a very valid reason behind it, and the root of that reason is your safety and wellbeing.
It hurts now because it just happened, the wound is still so fresh, but I am sure that in the long run when your thoughts clear up and the passion / impulse of the moment wears off, you'll look at your ex and realize why your dad told you to walk away while you still can.
Boys will come and go from your life...but you'll only ever get one dad. He's raised you from when you fit into the palm of his hand, to now so grown up falling 'in love' .... believe in your dad that he can never want anything bad for you. Really truly trust him and do as he says.
As far as "love" goes, sweetheart you'll fall "in love" so many times in life!! And each time you'll think that this time its different, this time its real, this time "this is it"!! Sigh.... I sound so cold but imo that is reality.
|Agree on Mar 14, 2009 @ 05:37 pm|
Having been in the same spot as you before, in general I think parents know their children fairly well. Assuming they're decent parents. They have the well being of their children in mind at all times. From their point of view they probably see you being with him not having a positive effect on you. It's probably hard for you to see because you're actually in the relationship.
What probably would've been the more mature thing to do when you dad suggested to break up with him was to discuss the situation with your dad to understand his point of view and so he understands your point of view.
I would suggest to talk to your dad and figure this out and then maybe talk to your guy again. But with all this breaking up and getting back together I could see why the guy would be reluctant to do anything. Even if your dad tell you to break up with him and you did, you chose to get back together and then break up again. Why did you even get back together? Ultimately, although you dad told you to do something it's you that made the decision.
I personally think that you're unable to take responsibility of the relationship yourself and am blaming it on your dad. If you were really to listen to your dad you wouldn't have gotten back together with the guy. At least that's what I think.
|I agree with misschickie on Mar 16, 2009 @ 03:52 pm|
In the end fathers are normally right assuming that you have a good relationship with your father and he has your best interests at heart.