on Feb 27, 2012 @ 01:35 pm|
Have you ever had family members steal your spot light? how do you deal with it especially if they are related to you by marriage?
|take it back on Feb 27, 2012 @ 02:56 pm|
I know some people who always have to turn everything around to be about them. I sometimes let them get away with it 'cuz I can't be bothered, but if it's something important, I take it back. I let them talk, pause for a little bit, then (add a bit of a condescending tone to your voice) take it back. "OK, so ANYWAYS, as I was saying before I was interrupted (smile to make it seem like you're joking) ....
I treat my in laws as I treat my family - I love them but I stand up for myself. I've been in situations where I don't stand up for myself and that never ever ends well. It's better if your polite, firm, and let your actions make those around you aware that you're not to be pushed around or talked down to or made to take blame when in need of a scapegoat.
|the narcissistic family members on Feb 28, 2012 @ 08:34 am|
I wish it was that easy. These "family members' by marriage are horrible! they are manipulative and change things around to suit them. They end up turning the situation and making Me look like I've done something wrong when its them. But I must admit I have given them a taste of their own medicine and they did not like it. I basically have to put my "armour" on when I see them. I will never trust them but I find when I give it back to them they run like little rats in their holes.
Ali de Bold
|Don't plot on Feb 29, 2012 @ 08:22 pm|
I'm going to disagree with the advice anonymous gave you. The best thing you can do is be positive and kind. I know it's really hard when someone is making things rough for you, but if you play games or "give them a taste of their own medicine" you will be equally to blame for the bad relationship. You can actually disarm someone with kindness. You said you've dished it back. I'm sure it would really surprise that person if you started being kind to them. It will be really hard at first, but eventually things will get better. It's really hard to be a jerk to someone who treats you well.
|Ask God on May 06, 2012 @ 10:24 pm|
He will guide you in the right direction.