on Nov 17, 2008 @ 09:46 pm|
It's this guy I use to go to high school with about 6 years ago. So met back up in club and exchanged numbers. I didn't think he was going to call me, but he did! In the beginning we would talk all the time, with so much to catch up on. He told me he hadn't had sex in 9 months, because he just got out of a relationship. So a couple weeks after on my birthday, we ended up having sex and it was super QUICK!!! A girl like me isn't use to that, at all!! Since then we've had sex a few more times. We have been on a few dates and sometimes just chill out! Now I'm starting to really like him, but he said he doesn't want to spend that much time together. He says he isn't ready for anything serious. He also said he talks to two other girls...Although, after that I've met his Mom and even stayed over while his Mom was there!! I mean would a guy bring multiple women around his Mom? I really like him, but I don't want keep asking him what he thinks of me. I think if his feelings changed he'd let me know! What do you think?
Ali de Bold
|Careful on Nov 18, 2008 @ 10:05 am|
It doesn't sound to me like he wants to commit any time soon. Since you have feelings for him you should probably distance yourself as this will only hurt you.
I wouldn't read anything into being over while is Mom is there. Some guys would bring multiple women around Mommy dearest. It doesn't necessarily mean he is invested in you. Just that he either lives at home or he is lazy. "Oh hey, Mom! This is... um, Sally!"
He says he is dating other women and doesn't want a relationship. Since you really like him and want to be together, this is a problem. I would tell him that you are not interested in being one of the girls and so you are removing yourself from the equation. Then don't take his calls for awhile and spend time with your friends. He will suddenly realize you are not available to be one of his booty calls and will have to decide quickly if he really wants to be with you or not. Once your head is cleared you may decide you don't want him after all.
|I agree on Nov 18, 2008 @ 12:20 pm|
....with misschickie, I would be careful. Just because his mom is there, does not meant anything necessarily. Some people don't put as much importance on meeting the parents as others. He seems like he has clearly told you that he is meeting new people and is not ready for a relationship. Removing yourself as one of his options is definitely a good idea. As misschickie said, he may suddenly realize he wants to be with you and then come around and if not, at least you know.
|. on Nov 18, 2008 @ 12:45 pm|
make it a whopping THREE who are suggesting you remove yourself as one of these options. he's probably thinking that he's really great because he's got 3 to choose from, and is also probably thinking that YOU are going to take anything you can get from him because he's just really THAT special. showing this gentleman that you value yourself and what YOU are going for over whatever it is he's willing to do (which isn't good enough, for your purposes) will probably throw him off. if nothing else, it will at least get him thinking about it - and wondering what YOUR secret must be to the end that you can walk away from the guy and these others are (we'll assume) fawning over him. best of luck!
|Thanks for the advice.. on Nov 21, 2008 @ 02:05 pm|
I have decided to distance myself from him, for the best interest of my heart. I have a bad habit of putting all my marbles in one bag and isn't the best idea. He is not in a position to receive the great qualities about me. I know he's a great person, but our timing just don't match. If it's really meant to be it will, but for now I know I have more important things to focus on!
|good for you! on Nov 21, 2008 @ 03:54 pm|
It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. He may be the greatest guy in your world and maybe even your soulmate... just not right now. Timing really is everything, and in this case the timing sucks. When or if it's meant to be, you'll both have every reason to commit and be exclusive. If it's not meant to be, you'll get over him and move on. Either way and with a long-term view, it's a win-win situation. Still, I can imagine it was a tough decision to make. Best wishes to you!
|COULD YOU FIND THE ANSWER on Dec 01, 2008 @ 04:35 am|
HELLO I NEED HELP DEALING WITH MY RELATIONSHIP PLEASE
|COULD ANYBODY HELP ME on Dec 01, 2008 @ 04:36 am|
DEALING WITH MY RELATIONSHIP
Ali de Bold
|What is your question? on Dec 01, 2008 @ 11:17 am|
Hi Krystal! We give each other advice based on the questions they ask so if you want any opinions you can ask here. :)