does the heart grow fonder ?

on Jul 19, 2009 @ 09:46 pm

Does absense Really make the heart grow fonder ?

Or , is it out of sight out of mind ?
Sometimes i don't know what to count on when it comes to relationships .

Any views or comments ?

6 Replies

I think it's a bit of both on Jul 20, 2009 @ 09:16 am

Absence does make the heart grow fonder, but too much absence and it's "out of sight, out of mind".

If you spend every waking moment together, then you'll eventually get sick of each other. But only seeing each other once every couple weeks won't be enough to solidify your relationship.

Depends... on Jul 21, 2009 @ 11:33 am

Every couple is different. Some do the distance thing quite well. A little space never hurts anyone - but , too much time apart is tricky. Maybe the couple will appreciate each other MORE and have more to say after a bit of time apart . Could be a good thing ....

Couples that have been together a while can / and do /run out of things to talk about .
Has anyone else gone thru this ?


yes, i know ! on Jul 21, 2009 @ 11:44 am

I have gone through that very thing. My partner and i have been together for 4 yrs. and we do have to struggle sometimes to have conversation. Work is stressful and we chop each others head off at times , not meaning to of course !!! I sometimes wonder how people that have been married for YEARS keep the conversation going.

Travel and common hobbies helped us a lot recently to keep juices flowing .

Good luck .

Ali de Bold
Key = taking time to be yourself on Jul 21, 2009 @ 07:18 pm

It's really important for couples to take time every week to do what makes you you. There is such a thing as too much togetherness and on the other end, not enough. There should be a happy medium.

What makes me feel like myself is exercise, whether it's going to the gym, going for a jog or taking a yoga class. I also love to get together with my friends for cappuccinos or cocktails. Taking a cooking or sailing class or any other extra curricular activity is great for keeping things alive because you both explore your interests and have something new and exciting to talk about with your partner.

Of course it's natural to have times where you have nothing much to say to each other - esp if you're both tired and working a lot. Reading books, the web and keeping on top of current events is also a great way to have something relevant to say. There's always something to talk about...

Time by yourself on Jul 22, 2009 @ 10:11 am

I have been with mt husband since I was 15yrs old and now I am 35 (we have been married for 14 of those years) We both work full time, so I have problems taking time away from him when we are not at work. We have 2 teenage boys that also keep us very busy. I do know he has mentioned that every guy needs guy time so I do give him that it would be wrong if I didnt, but usually when he has his guy time for some stupid reason I just sit at home and watch TV or just do absolutly nothing. As for running out of things to talk about we dont have that problem too often unless we are totally exsausted from our day at work because we dont usually like to vent about bad things that happend at work unless it is really bothering us.

time by yourself on Jul 26, 2009 @ 03:33 pm

I think one of the reasons “perfect” couples fall apart is because they become stagnant as an individual. To keep the interest in him alive, you need to keep the interest in yourself alive. You need to do things on your own, so you not only have your own life, your own individuality, but also you have something new in you everyday that he will want to learn about, and you’ll want to share.

Pls don’t take offense I don’t mean “you” as in you personally, I just mean in general …what we should all do when in a relationship.

As for the original question "absense makes the heart grow fonder" or is it "out of sight out of mind". I think its very individual. For some its one, for others its the other.

If you mean this question to be applicable when in a marriage / relationship - then I think its the first as long as its used in small doses. Being "absent" by taking time for yourself and doing things on your own is a very good thing as I already mentioned above. But don't be so absent and don't spend so little time with your partner that you forget how good you two are together.

I hope my ramblings make some sense here .... I appologize in advance if it doesn't :)


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