on Apr 24, 2016 @ 11:56 am|
my husband is always telling me how I don't let things go, that we argue over the same things repeatedly and they're just little things he says. My problem with that is who decides what makes something a non issue? Because I quite often feel that whatever it is (issue wise) it might've not even been an issue at all but then he determines it to be of little importance and it's as tho because of that it grows larger in my mind. He doesn't want to even listen to what it is I'm trying to say, specially if he thinks I'm wrong, but a lot of the times I feel it's not that I'm wrong, it's that he doesn't understand what I'm trying to say, and that's why I continue to bring things up, because I don't feel I've been heard. I don't want to be the type of person who sweats the small stuff but who gets to decide what the small stuff is?
|I don't want to fight on Apr 24, 2016 @ 11:58 am|
i don't like to argue but I hate to feel disrespected so I get argumentative
|. on Apr 24, 2016 @ 01:31 pm|
When it comes to relationships, it should be 50/50, you respect your spouse and they respect you ,how you feel and what you think is just as important as what he thinks and feels ,it sounds to me like ,he's not respecting you or your feelings ,I can't imagine my husband blowing off my feelings or telling me something isn't important ,I really feel bad for you ,is there anyway you can tell him ,how upsetting it is when he doesn't listen to you and you feel this way for a reason and that your feelings are important too
|... on Apr 24, 2016 @ 02:48 pm|
I find it can be a man thing by times lol.. Sometimes my hubby gets it set in his mind that he is right which is normally when i say whatever and let it go.. Life is to short to sweat the small stuff.. Although if it is an issue that is important to me i can be stubborn and keep it on the table until we at least agree to disagree.. Yes it is 50 50 and always should be.. Love my husband dearly but just not his opinion sometimes lol
|Tracyr on Apr 24, 2016 @ 10:43 pm|
I agree with this. I cannot imagine my husband ever blowing my comments if, no matter how silly they seemed to him. A relationship should have equal amounts of respect from each partner.
|. on May 10, 2016 @ 04:00 am|
You, my dear decides what is the small stuff! I think some men has a hard time hearing and if it's something they can't fix or needs fixing, they don't think it's a big deal.
My husband gets like that sometimes and I seriously would just talk louder to make a point! I wait until he talks about something I'm totally not interested in or care about and do exactly what he does to me, and then tell him, now you know how I feel. LOL
He's a lot better now because of it. Just pretend not to pay attention to him when he talks about something he cares about, and point it out to him.
Then you could nicely talk to him that it bothers you that just because he thinks something is not a big deal doesn't mean it isn't a deal for you and vice versa. Someone once told me, men could sometimes be like a child, you literally have to teach them or show them hands on for them to hear you. :)
|Small Stuff on May 16, 2016 @ 12:00 am|
small stuff or not, sometimes it's best to not say anything....keeping the peace is one way to avoid further harm...you can allow time to pass which, in turn, will give you time to find solutions
|You are all so smart on May 16, 2016 @ 02:56 pm|
and lovely and I feel I should be paying you all therapist wages! Thanks a lot for listening to me vent, at least then he doesn't have too lol