on Dec 28, 2008 @ 05:53 pm|
Everybody says that this guy likes me, and i think it's true because he shows sighns that he likes me. I like him to his funny, sweet,charming.
Theres one problem his my best friends ex.
I really like him but she's my best friend
PLZZZ PLZZ help me!
should i get with him or stick with my best friend???
|Talk! on Dec 29, 2008 @ 01:23 am|
there is only one way you can date this guy and keep your friendship. You will need her blessing. Bottom line.
Even then, she may be weird about it. You'll need to protect your close friendship even more than the new relationship because if the romance fizzles you'll want to cry on her shoulder, right?
Talk to her. There is no way around it.
1. If she says 'absolutely not', then you have a really hard choice to make. Look 1 year down the road and ask yourself if you'd be okay if she wasn't in your life. It's harsh, but that's the honest truth.
2. If she says 'yes', be sure to make time for her - show her she's still really important to you and that she hasn't been replaced.
3. Allow her to say 'no for now, maybe yes in a few months'. Imagine being in her shoes. Maybe she just needs time to get used to the idea. You don't have to base your decisions on her feelings - this is your life after all - but give it a good hard think before you throw this special friendship under the bus.
Best of luck, sweetie!
Ali de Bold
|Off limits on Dec 30, 2008 @ 11:46 am|
Sorry but the universal code is do NOT date your best friend's Ex. Period. This will most likely ruin your friendship.
One caveat. If your friend is TOTALLY over her ex and tells you she is ok with it and you think this guy is The One.
Otherwise, move along and find someone that won't ruin your friendship with your best friend.
|THNX!! on Dec 30, 2008 @ 10:04 pm|
Thank you SOOOOO much from the botton of my heart. I think i know were i want to be with this guy know but i do think my friend is over him because she is dating someone else and i'm really happy for her. :)
But thank you anyway you've been a big help
THNXXXXXX <3 :)
|I agree with the other ladies... on Dec 31, 2008 @ 01:11 pm|
I think you should talk to your friend and find out. It doesn't matter if she is dating someone else or not. A girl's ex is off limits unless you get the blessing from the friend and you think he is, as MissChickie said, the One. Talk to your girl.