Fell asleep while my girlfriend was venting to me

on Apr 09, 2015 @ 07:09 am

As a child I've always fallen asleep easily. There's even a picture of 4 year old me sleeping in the middle of my hallway because I fell asleep there. I do go to university regularly with my classes requiring me to wake up early as the university is on the other side of the city. 

Last night my girlfriend was venting to me about her family and I feel terrible that I fell asleep in the middle of it!! I fall asleep often and I think it is a problem. To her, even when I fall asleep while we're just talking, she gets upset with me, but now she's really upset. I don't know where I'm going with this, I guess I'm just looking for what someone else thinks is right because both our views would be biased. Would falling asleep easily be a strong reason for me to feel like I did nothing wrong? or am I just coming up with an excuse so that I don't feel at fault here. Am I the one at fault? or is she just over reacting to me falling asleep. I mean we often spend our whole day together because we go to school and I often take her to get some dinner, maybe some shopping after school before going home.

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Fell Asleep on Apr 09, 2015 @ 10:42 am

You just might be exhausted or there is a real sleep disorder called#Narcotepsy where a person will just fall asleep for no reason. Or they have excessive daytime sleepiness. Here is a website you can read about this and if it sounds like you maybe see a doctor,The websight is www.symtomfind.com. As for your friend if she is a friend she will get over this and understand. P.S. Just type the word #Narcotepsy.

sleeping on Apr 09, 2015 @ 10:52 am

I also love sleep and will fall asleep pretty much anywhere. I remember being in university and working and generally being so run down that I would just fall asleep wherever or whenever I could (including many naps throughout places on campus). That said, I could also function a lot better then on less sleep than I can now. So I STILL have the problem of falling asleep at inopportune times when I'm really tired.

Perhaps like @chrissyann123 mentioned, it could be something more than just "being tired" - and if you feel like you are overcome with sleep, you might want to head to a sleep clinic just to be sure. You definitely don't want it to negatively interfere with your life.

Whether you are just exhausted, or if it's something more, I don't think your girlfriend should be upset. It sounds like, other than the sleeping, you take the time to show her you care about her. I hope she can be understanding of what is happening, and I hope it isn't a serious issue.

Sleep on Apr 09, 2015 @ 12:52 pm

First of all I think you should see your doctor about your sleeping pattern if you haven't already, just get everything checked out and make sure you are ok.

And I think your girlfriend should try and be more understanding, it's not your fault if you have had this problem ever since you were young. She has to realize that you are not bored of her but sometimes you just fall asleep and can't help it.

I really wish all the best for you and I hope everything works out for you in the end.

Goodluck with everything.


Fell asleep on Apr 09, 2015 @ 09:26 pm

If I were you I think the frst thing I would do is,go see my Family Doctor.Tell Him/Her everything that is going on with you.You never said if you sleep at night time.See your Doctor and maybe your Doctor will refer you to some sort of specialist who deals with people with unusual sleeping patterns.Good Luck.

narcolepsy on Apr 09, 2015 @ 10:42 pm

Just in case you haven't heard of the disorder, I just wanted to make sure you got the spelling right :) It's narcolepsy with an "L"

Narcolepsy on Apr 09, 2015 @ 11:13 pm

So sorry about the incorrect spelling but that does not mean I don't know about the disorder.

Narcolepsy on Apr 10, 2015 @ 01:53 pm

Hi there. I do hope you go to a doctor, it does seem like there might be a disorder or you are just so tired with everything you have going on. Ginger.

see a dr on Apr 21, 2015 @ 12:50 am

I have had my ex bf do the exact same thing. He would fall asleep ALL the time. Like literally mid sentence, mid argument, mid... you know. Like a horse. He would just lean on something and drift off even if he was talking. It is literally the most infuriating thing on the planet, and after we broke up it seemed amazing to me that I could have a convo with a person and not have them pass out. I have done research on it before and it can actually be a medical problem. If I were you, I would go see a doctor because it's not normal. Even if you're exhausted, its not normal to pass out like that, and I would side with your gf on this because I have been on the receiving end of this myself.

I agree.. on Apr 21, 2015 @ 09:24 am

and think you should see a Dr. as soon as you can! You sound like you
could very well have narcolepsy and its nothing to laugh about. My Uncle has
had this all of his life, but people just thought he was falling asleep because
he was worked so hard and putting in such long hours. He would fall asleep
any where and every where. At the dinner table, in a room full of loud people
during parties and even while he was driving! He finally went to a sleeping
disorder place and found out he has narcolepsy. With all the long hours you put
in at school and with all of your studies it would just adds to the sleeping disorder, if
you do indeed have one. Like I said you really need to speak with your Dr. about
this and have him/her send you to a sleeping disorder place where they can
determine why this is happening to you. Than they can come up with a way for you to
deal with this. I'm sure if your girl friend knew you have a good reason for
falling asleep like you have been she'll understand. How ever keep in mind that
this could also back fire on you! If they tell you there's nothing wrong with
you and you keep falling asleep while she's talking to you, you just might wake
up one day to find she's gone and gone for good!


my two cents on Apr 21, 2015 @ 11:59 am

I agree with everyone else that you should have yourself checked out just to make sure. If it's not narcolepsy, it's still pretty normal to be exhausted from a hard day's work. I haven't fallen asleep mid sentence before, but almost always zonk out while watching a movie or listening to another conversation that I am mainly a passive participant (like when my husband and another guy are talking shop. Guaranteed sleep aid, lol!)

If you have a medical issue, your girlfriend should not be angry with you because you can't help it. That said, she doesn't need to like it and if it's a deal breaker for her, then it would be up to her if she wanted to continue in the relationship. Ultimately, even if pet peeves aren't "fair", they can erode a relationship to the breaking point and no one wants to be in that situation (including you).

If it's not a medical issue but is a lifestyle one (ie. you're too busy), you should consider simplifying your life if you can for your own health's sake. Your immune system will be worn down from inadequate rest and you might be more sickly than usual.

If however it's not medical nor lifestyle and this is just a habit of yours, then I guess you two have some big decisions to make. There's nothing wrong with being a sleepyhead, but you have to understand when it rubs someone the wrong way just like any other habit that you may not love about your partner. I am a big believer in picking your battles, and if this is a major issue then perhaps it's best to call it quits before your relationship has progressed to marriage and/or parenthood.

I hope everything works out well for you both!

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