on Apr 12, 2008 @ 08:29 pm|
What do you ladies do when you get into huge fights with people you live with (i.e. siblings)? I hate fighting with my family but it is bound to happen... and when it does it just explodes in my face!
How do you deal with it? And then how do you resolve it after...?
|give each other some space on Apr 12, 2008 @ 09:25 pm|
Fighting with a family member is definitely not fun. But, I find that it's much easier to get over especially since most fights are about petty everyday things. It's hard to stay mad at family you're living with for a long time. I find that it really helps to just give each other some space - let yourself cool off and then talk about things if it really is something that needs to be resolved. If not, hug/smile/even apologize if it feels right & get on with the everyday domestic life.
The #1 rule for me though, is to never say anything that you know will really hurt them just to gain the upper hand of an argument. This is especially true for family, since, first of all, you know exactly the "wrong" buttons to press because you know them so well, and secondly, they're probably the last people you want to hurt in that way.
Ali de Bold
|good advice on Apr 12, 2008 @ 09:40 pm|
I think Samuraiya gave some really good advice. I still regret things I said to my Mom in anger when I was a teenager. It is really hard to live with family - esp as you get older and more independent. I heard somewhere that when you are under your parent's roof whether you are still living there or just visiting for a few days, you become that kid again, and it is so true. Doesn't matter how old you are. I still feel 10 years old when I go home.
It's really important to get your own space. Take a walk, go for a coffee or something. It will clear your head and then when you go back you can make peace. I always apologize for everything because I don't like to stay mad long. Life is just too short. Even if you aren't that much to blame, an apology can really diffuse the situation.
Know that this too shall pace, as cliche as that is. Even if you are your sibs are at each other's throats today, before you know it you will miss living under the same roof together.
|Aha that is good advice. on Apr 16, 2008 @ 10:48 pm|
But too bad nothing we fight about is ever petty or small. It's always serious stuff, and I'm not afraid to admit it. I think we don't fight enough and that's actually the problem.
All the more reason to look forward to moving out...oh, but I know there's pros and cons to everything.
Oh well, I know I am mature enough to let it all boil over. Can't say the same for them :P