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Anonymous
| Not sure what to do about the stash on May 20, 2009 @ 05:30 pm
I don't know what to think, just found in the history on the computer, I know it is a guy thing and I try not to let it bother me too much. I know this is going to sound so dumb but I just feel insucre now about my body, why is he looking at this if I am here , does he want to be with someone elese. So many stupid questions running through my head just since I have found this. I know he loves me to the end of the world so I don;t know why it is bugging me should I bring it up to him or just let him have his fun on the computer.???
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legz99 | YIKES... on May 22, 2009 @ 03:49 pm
I would have to agree with misschickie - i am not a fan of my man watching porn.It kinda creeps me out . I know all men check it out - let's not kid ourselves ladies...I've watched it myself to see what all the fuss was about . Lord it was brutal ! I guess as long as he's not addicted to the stuff i can deal with it - or at least i think so. Not exactly sure why i am so bothered by it. The thought of him getting aroused by looking at another woman makes me CRAAAZZZY . Maybe its the arousal thing . Have some soul searching to do i suppose . | | Reply | | 
emaynard | Not a big deal. on May 27, 2009 @ 10:43 am
I'd prefer him to be open and honest about it, but it's an uncomfortable subject. Sex is still almost taboo. To be fair, I occasionally like to check it out once in a great while. It's exciting and fun to watch other people, I believe it's the taboo side of it that makes it so exciting.
And I'd like to agree with legz99, as long as its not an addiction I see no problem with it. It gets him off of my case for a day, which can be a really nice break.
As to what I would do if I found it in my history, I'd be most likely to just confront him about it, and if he didn't try to lie about it, I'd probably be just fine. | | Reply | | 
barbiemom | porn on Jun 16, 2009 @ 09:59 am
been there done that he said never again yea right!
i still find them every now and then | | Reply | | 
sassy | well...why not on Jun 30, 2009 @ 09:28 am
As a confident, self assured and beautiful woman I do not mind the fact that most men (don't deny it) have seen/kept/stored porn or erotica files/mags/posters. What's the big deal? I cannot be with my man 24/7. Men are visual creatures. They need visual stimulation to get off when they have one on one time with themselves. Just like most women need to have some kind of romantic scenario/ or storyline to get off. We're all adults here, so let's be clear and honest and not dance around the issue.
Just because he has occasional looks at his collection, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. It also doesn't mean that he can't get off when he's with you. Your man gets turned on by your physical beauty when you are with him. When you are not there, he gets off on (in most cases) physical beauty of other women (mostly ones that resemble you, believe it or not)
NOW, its a completely different deal if your guy can't get off without his porn stash, then it's a problem, then you might be dealing with an addict who has unrealistic expectations of women. Donna in That 70s show overreacted. Eric loves her and would get physically turned on by her, not just the mags.
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brandil | Mixed Feelings.. on Jun 30, 2009 @ 12:58 pm
If i were to find a long time partners porn stash and know that he was "using" it recently I would be a little mad but mostly upset? If i were a willing perticipant already in sexual actions it would be really upsetting to learn that he needed someone else.. something more. | | Reply | | 
silvercity | ... on Jun 30, 2009 @ 03:26 pm
I wouldn't mind my partner having a "porn stash" as long as it didn't interfere with our sexual relationship. If it improved it it would be even better :-) | | Reply | | 
razor | . . . on Jun 30, 2009 @ 04:32 pm
Personally I dont need physical porn , My imagination works well enough :D.
and even at that , unloading can be done without that aswell.
If porn is interfering in a relationship then yeah its a problem,
But for example If I did have a porn stash , to answer your question ,
I wouldnt care if my girlfriend had pictures of naked men, I dont own
her cause obviously she isnt an object. And she can own whatever she
wants and use it however she wants.
Weither its naked men , naked women , toasters in bikinis, who cares :p. | | Reply | |
Anonymous
| Porn on Jul 02, 2009 @ 10:20 am
I found my husband's stash.
It made me feel as though he was cheating on me. | | Reply | |
Anonymous
| DudeAdvisor on Jul 02, 2009 @ 11:59 am
I was just reading this thread to see what the fuss is about and to look for a male's opinion. I would just like to say that I find it amsuing that "Razor" has the typical ChickAdvisor avatar, yet his profile clearly says "dude." :-))
BTW - My take on the whole topic is that I would prefer porn not to be present in my relationship. If my man feels the need, I wish for him to be open and honest. I want him to know that we have a strong enough relationship to be able to discuss anything. | | Reply | |
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