Girl trips or separate vacations?


MizzRobin
on Feb 02, 2008 @ 10:17 pm

So ladies...I have a question...at what point do you no longer do a girls trip when you are in a relationship or do you think you should always be able to go on a trip with your friends no matter how long you have been with your boyfriend? I have recently planned a trip with my friends to escape this grey coldness of Toronto and when I mention the trip to others, I always get the eyebrow raise and then the question "what's going on with your boyfriend"? I don't get why spending time with my friends equates to trouble at home...

Traditionally I always travelled with the person I am with but last year I went on my first girl trip and we had a really good time... laying on the beach, shopping, beach, shopping, beach. hahahah! Now all of a sudden people are questioning why I would repeat that if I were in a relationship. Anyway, I was wondering what you ladies think?!?! Is there ever a point when the girl trips should fall by the wayside? I guess you all know my take on it since I am a few days away from Girl trip 2! :o)
 


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reeshie19
i don't think so on Feb 03, 2008 @ 05:13 am

unless u r married,then i believe it should end.you seem like a very responsible person too...don't let the eyebrow raise from other people get to u,bcoz as long as ur bfriend trusts u thn they shold keep their comments to themselves:)u obviously have a great relationship with your bfriend and you are very lucky that he approves of it.i think u should go and have lots and lots of fun!
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samuraiya
go for it! on Feb 03, 2008 @ 10:03 am

Girl trips should forever be allowed at any point of any relationship! (well, maybe not while you're pregnant or when your other half is really sick, or any other extreme circumstances) I think it's great and really important to be able to have your own life still while in a relationship. I remember going camping once and saw this group of old ladies on a canoe trip without their husbands or family. And I thought to myself... wow, it's such an amazing thing to have a group of girlfriends to go on a trip with even at that age. So yes, go for it and don't feel bad!
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Bubblybunny
having your own time is important on Feb 03, 2008 @ 10:24 am

I believe you should be able to go on girls trips whenever you want (barring the extreme circumstances mentioned by samuraiya). I think it's important to have your own freedom, your own time to do the things you enjoy, especially when you are in a relationship. Sometimes you just need to have that female companionship...esp. when you've been in a long term relationship for so long that you might want to have a taste of that singledom one more time...even for just a few days.

Having said that, I'm married and my vacation time is precious. So I probably wouldn't spend a whole week of it on a girls trip, but it would be awesome if I can take a long weekend to spend with my girl friends, doing the girlie things...things that guys just don't get/enjoy. I know if my hubby would be supportive if I want to spend a weekend with my girl friends (and leave him in peace with his computer games...haha). And I wouldn't object to my hubby wanted to take a camping trip with his buddies without me. We trust each other and that's important to keep in mind. But we definitely wouldn't want to be away from each other for more than a few days.
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Feisty Redhead
go and have fun! on Feb 03, 2008 @ 10:28 am

Samuraiya took the words right out of my mouth. :) Getting to spend some time with your friends is important, and you should never have to give up a girls trip or an occasional girls night out just because you're in a relationship. Unless, as samuraiya said, your guy is really sick and needs you or something like that. As long as there are no double standards going on (he should be allowed to have some fun with the guys, too!) then there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion. So go on your girl trip and have loads of fun, and ignore the silly people who think for whatever insane reason you have to give up your friends just because you're in a relationship - cause you don't!
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artist
Nothing wrong... on Feb 04, 2008 @ 06:30 pm

I don't see anything wrong with going on a vacation alone with your best girl buddies. Those people who raise eyebrows really shouldn't. Who says your man needs to be there? In fact, I think that bringing your man with the girls won't be fun. Though I do agree with some of the others, that it would be a little strange if you were married.

Go and have fun! I can't wait to see your reviews/pictures/hear about it when you get back Robin!

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Dairinn
nothing wrong doing it when you're married either on Feb 04, 2008 @ 06:49 pm

I've been married for 4 1/2 yrs now (together for 10) and go on a girls camping trip every year. Hubby understands, doesn't mind and also likes his alone time as well. I think it's important to do this ESPECIALLY when you're married or have been with someone a long time. You can't possibly do everything together and once you've been in a relationship a long time you probably don't get as much "girls time" as you once would. So it's important to maintain that with your buds, and healthy for your relationship with boyfriend/husband as well. We still all go out together (friends and SO's) from time to time as well so it's not like I segregate hubby from friends but I still love our all girls trips.
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Ali de Bold
married on Feb 04, 2008 @ 08:13 pm

I agree that it is always a good idea to get some girl time, married or not. However, I wouldn't drain our travel fund to go on a shopping spree to Europe with my girls and leave hubby at home. But if money is no issue and you still make time to travel together, why not?

Bottom line for me is as long as you are willing to allow him to do the same ( you get your girls trip, he can have his guy trip) I think it is a perfectly healthy thing.
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spotty
everyone already said it on Feb 05, 2008 @ 10:53 pm

Go MizzRobin ... married or not ... serious or not. Don't give up your identity or friends b/c of a boy or what others may think of your relationship.

My case may be a little extreme given Fiance's job/career, but he's off on trips all the time. While he's away I get plenty of girl time w/ my friends. I've even gone on a few trips w/o him (whether it was a girls trip or his schedule wouldn't allow it).

All it really boils down to is reciprocated trust and healthy independence. If people question that in you and in your relationship, just reassure them you two know how to take care of yourselves.

Enjoy your trip ... where ya goin'!?!?!?
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MizzRobin
Good times! on Feb 19, 2008 @ 02:13 pm

We ended up going...just got back...just went down to Florida for a little sun! :o)
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