on Aug 16, 2007 @ 11:07 pm|
This is one of those awkward conversations I usually have with my girlfriends, usually over a martini laughing out loud. Generally we all say we find this embarrassing to receive and not at all fun to give, yet boys always want to do it or have it done to them. I wish I could lighten up about the whole subject and just have fun with it, but when my boyfriend wants to do this with me I feel really uncomfortable about it and it kind of grosses me out. If it's for him I want to gag and if it's for me I feel really awkward about it. What do you do to loosen up? ( I hope this convo is ok here - I don't mean to be inappropriate)
Ali de Bold
|It's ok on Aug 16, 2007 @ 11:39 pm|
I'm sure everyone will keep it clean. Brave topic! ;)
|awkward at first on Aug 17, 2007 @ 01:58 am|
I can appreciate your apprehension about receiving oral sex. It can be awkward and strange. But if you have a partner who really knows what you like, it is amazing. Communication is key. It may feel strange and uncomfortable to talk about what is pleasurable for you but it definitely makes all the difference. Once he finds your zone and really knows how to get you turned on all the way to orgasm, you'll look forward to the oral sex part of your physical relationship, I promise. Plus, I've found that discussing what you really like is a MAJOR turn on for them. Men love sex and talking about it w/ someone they're into is awesome for them. Plus, each women is so different. Even if your partner has had some previous experience, he isn't going to know exactly what you like. And even if you don't know exactly what you like, men are up for the challenge!!! Communicate during oral sex and soon you'll establish perfect chemistry -- one that is relaxing and enjoyable, not awkward.
Brave me not posting anonymous! ;-)
|Talking....hmm on Sep 09, 2007 @ 09:13 am|
So, if the issue is you just don't enjoy it at all, how can you have the "no thanks!" conversation? Maybe I'm a prude, but I have to be really revved up or a little drunk to want to give/receive. Otherwise it just kills the mood altogether for me.
I really want to be anon here, but in the interest of being genuine...;-)