on Feb 07, 2013 @ 05:27 pm|
I randomly came across a youtubers comment and thought to share:
"All marriages go through hard times, and all marriages go through phases where you become deathly bored with each other. That's when you have to dig your heels in, and commit yourself to working through it. Problem is, there's this major lie today that when couples go through these hard times, it must mean they've married the "wrong person". Don't fall for it, don't believe the lie :)"
I think that's amazing advise!! Do you girls have, or have come across any pieces of great advise recently?
|my advice on May 21, 2014 @ 03:34 pm|
I know this is an older thread with nothing as a follow up. But Becky is right, even now over a year later, couples split up with out giving the marriage half a chance. Marriage is not like that in the story books where one lives happily ever after.
Marriage must be worked at. Everyone changes and in a marriage you have to stay on top of what your significant other is doing and thinking, or you start to grow apart. I don't mean you cannot live your own life, but you must stay connected in mind as well as body. You go into a marriage with a lot of love in your heart, now get out there and nourish it. Its like planting a garden. If you do not water or feed it it will slowly dry up and die. If it was worth planting is it not worth working at so that it grows strong?
|50/50 on May 22, 2014 @ 02:31 am|
Sometimes. Sometimes its worth it. But sometimes people marry young and as they grow up and become adults, and get real jobs and find new hobbies and meet new friends, they realize they arent the people they were when they took their vows. Sometimes people realize that they want kids or dont want kids, or that they want to raise them differently, or that they want to travel or that they want to buy a house and get a mortgage and a pet chihuahua and spend most nights watching tv instead of backpacking across europe. People change. And sometimes you have to let go of the person who was once right for you, to find the person who is right for the person you have become, and let them find the person who fits in their life rather then making both of you miserable by trying to fit somewhere you no longer belong.
|One side of the coin on May 22, 2014 @ 08:36 am|
You are right Malixy! Maybe the answer to this problem lies in thinking before leaping into marriage. So many of us mistake lust for love, such a shame. If they would only realize that lust is only a small part of marriage, once the bloom has gone off of the sexual part of marriage, most times that is he end of the marriage. I was guilty of that way of thinking, stuck the marriage out for 17years. My second and last marriage was much better, we were friends, confidants, best buds as well as lovers. I was very fortunate, I had unconditional love and understanding. I wish every one of you could experience this kind of marriage. I wish all you young marrieds the best of luck.
|I agree! on May 22, 2014 @ 12:45 pm|
Being with my spouse for almost 14 years I totally agree. When push comes to shove, most get going. Try sticking it out and see how better it is later when you renew your love. Life is about ups and downs, marriage and relationships are no exception. The ones who don't give up, live the good life.