His sister...


Cuppedcakes
on Mar 04, 2016 @ 03:30 pm

My boyfriends sister does NOT like me...she said I came on too strong and get this, that I'm not doing her. It's sorta funny as if it hadn't been for my BF telling me how important it was to him we got on, and how he hoped she and I would be friends I'd have never have chosen to befriend her on my own, so I could've saved my song and dance routine ahaha. She told him she's not sure about this one (meaning me) now I thought that was a bad thing but my BF now says it doesn't matter what she thinks. I'm like singing a different tune now eh? 
So at any rate after all is back story I guess I'm trying to get to the crux of the matter-should this bother me and what can I do to fix it? She thinks I un friended her on FB also which is not the case. Basically she seemed like she liked me then went weird so I feel hurt but maybe I shouldn't?
HELP 
 

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Cuppedcakes
Ugh on Mar 04, 2016 @ 03:30 pm

tbh I feel a lot of his friends don't like me either
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Anonymous
sister on Mar 04, 2016 @ 03:33 pm

She doesn't like you?? Don't acknowledge her at all then. If you really want to upset her, just give her the biggest smile (even though it's false). In no time at all she'll move on to someone else. I would not speak or look at her and she will eventually stop her antics.
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Tracyr
Sorry to Hear on Mar 04, 2016 @ 03:48 pm

I feel really bad for you,she is the one with the problem,don't let her get to you, some people find fault with everyone, just carry on with your life and ignore her ,she sounds very immature ,you can't always please everyone ,make yourself happy and never mind anyone else
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wendyroy
:( on Mar 04, 2016 @ 05:41 pm

consider the source.
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fly_eyez
I feel really bad for you :( on Mar 06, 2016 @ 12:47 pm

It's horrible when you don't like his family or friends or vice versa. Just remember it's YOUR relationship and continue to be kind to them. Avoid them when you can and don't hesitate to tell your bf how you feel. Maybe he has suggestions - he knows them best. It takes a toll on your relationship if he's feeling caught in the middle so I feel for you. It's a tough situation to be in. Maybe his sis is jealous especially if they are really close. She sounds very young and immature to me. Good luck chick.
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Anonymous
Jelousy or Teritorial on Mar 06, 2016 @ 01:48 pm

I have had the same sort of issue and eventually it was resolved with time.
My now mother in law hated me so much because I was taking her baby away so she found everything wrong with me. She even got pissed off when we announced our engagement and told us to call it off. But after she realized how happu we were she stopped being so ignorant and we have had a great relationship.
So in your case maybe his sister is just being overprotective of him because she sees you as someone taking him away from her. Or it could be as simple as she is jealous of your relationship because it is taking time from their sibling relationship.
It may take time for her to warm up to you but just be friendly and talk to her and I bet she will eventually see what your bf sees in you.
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DEANENE
selfish on Mar 06, 2016 @ 02:08 pm

I think that she's just a Selfish jelous brat who likes to hurt your feelings I would either ignore her or stand up to her to see what happens next their is nothing worst when family members don;t get along in my family we all get along I couldn't stand that happening to me even if everything gets alright between you's it;ll always be on your mind how she treated you in the past I wish Good Luck Chick
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prettyrainbow
. on Mar 06, 2016 @ 02:34 pm

She seems like she is being very overprotective of her brother and although it's understandable, her behaviour is still wrong. There's nothing worse than family members meddling in one's relationship. I would make it very clear from the start that you won't tolerate anyone interfering with your relationship, but this has to be something you and your boyfriend both agree on. Has he expressed the same concerns to you? If not, you should have a serious discussion about what you can and can't tolerate. How much is going too far and what will you both do if that happens? You either stick together with the same ideals or you'll end up on two different roads disagreeing whenever she tries to come between you.

Another point is to not get emotional when she tries something. This is the reaction she's hoping for. Stay calm and collected and keep responding in a respectful manner, the opposite of what she expects you to do. She's most probably hoping you get riled up so that she can show everyone how unstable you are. She won't have an audience if you don't give her one and she'll eventually learn to leave you alone. Just continue showing kindness and respect on your part. Good luck!

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Cuppedcakes
You guys are the BEST on Mar 06, 2016 @ 03:58 pm

I am honestly so grateful for your replies thank you so much for helping me out xoxoxo
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fly_eyez
@rainbow on Mar 06, 2016 @ 08:44 pm

You nailed it. Your answer is perfect.
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