on Aug 20, 2008 @ 02:56 pm|
I am in a semi-new relationship that is going absolutely great. I see him almost every night but the problem is I want him to call me more during the day. He works during the day shift and gets long lunches but never calls and only texts once or twice. How do I ask him to call me more without sounding like a nag or a selfious girlfriend? I dont want 10 phone calls a day, but once would be nice.
|he'll call when he wants to on Aug 20, 2008 @ 05:41 pm|
I don't want this to sound harsh, but I bet it will. I apologize in advance.
It sounds like he's putting himself out there to you quite a bit already. You see him every night. You exchange texts throughout the afternoon. That right there is already a lot of attention, I think. So it may not occur to him that you're craving even more attention. To me it seems like he's already exceeding status quo.
Next time he texts, call him back, rather than texting him back. Or just plain ask him to give you a call. Men respond much better to deliberate questions/suggestions rather than subtle comments or hints.
If he wanted to be calling you or felt you really wanted him to call you, he would be doing so. If he knows you wish he'd call more, this may be a sign he's just not that into you.
|^ on Aug 20, 2008 @ 06:41 pm|
I agree with Spotty on this one.
Also, guys (most guys, anyway) don't like to call/be called "just because" or "just to say hi" - they prefer you only call them if you really have something to talk about. They don't like when you call them to say "I just miss you" or something then sit in silence listening to each other breathe, because you don't even have anything to talk about.
|Hello?? on Aug 20, 2008 @ 11:37 pm|
You already say that he works. You need to concentrate on your work during work hours and need to socialize with his co-workers during lunch. Don't be naive.
|Thanks! on Aug 21, 2008 @ 01:21 am|
I do agree that the texts and me seeing him is enough attention. This is actually a wake up call to me too that I dont really need him to call cause he is in fact giving me a lot of attention. Men are complicated and I am slowly learning the difference between the male and female perspective which is also helping me learn I don't need something as stupid as a phone call for reassurance. This has helped a lot, thanks! :)
|you can stil get him to call ... on Aug 26, 2008 @ 05:26 pm|
i agree with everything said here ...
but here's something that might actually get him to call you more often, you be the one to call him daily, more than once, even just to say hi (as long as you are sure he wont be bothered or take it the wrong way if he's that sort of person) keep this up for a while, then suddenly stop calling !!!
the roles will be reversed and he'll be the one calling you more !
I noted this had an effect on me, so who knows it might work on other men ...
Ali de Bold
|Interesting point, Ahmad on Aug 27, 2008 @ 03:58 pm|
Funny I came in here thinking Ahmad was just testing the forums and had left some test comments but it was real advice! And funny at that.
If I wanted someone to call me but felt like I was making all of the effort, I would just stop calling and wait for him to realize I'm not going to pursue him. Trust that this works. ;)
|Everyone has interesting points.... on Aug 31, 2008 @ 12:55 pm|
However; I have played games or played hard to get with the hope the guys I dated in the past would catch on; unfortunately these types of shenanigans are counter productive, and immature. I think spotty is "spot" on excuse the pun ;-)
I don’t think it's his lack of attention but your own insecurities that need to be addressed. Focus on you! Focus on building your career during the day! Be independent and less needy. I honestly believe a guy worth having will find those qualities sexy as hell and that my dear will keep his attention!