on Jun 16, 2015 @ 01:48 pm|
For those in relationships, how often do you have sex? I'm starting to panic because my boyfriend of four years and I have slowed down significantly since work began picking up in stressful ways. Sometimes only once every two or three weeks. :S
|How often sex? on Jun 16, 2015 @ 02:04 pm|
Don't panic because with work and your every day stressful life people get tired it is very normal in my opinion to slow down. Wait until you get married and have children it even sometimes slows down even more. I have been with my hubby a long time and it does slow down but when you have it make the most of it and enjoy. Perfectly normal.
|. on Jun 16, 2015 @ 04:44 pm|
Geez, the older you get the less important sex becomes.
I've been with my man 15 years, and about to get married in 3 weeks. We have gone months without it, or days. It depends on life, I don't believe in scheduling time for sex. There are more important things in life.
|. on Jun 18, 2015 @ 08:56 pm|
I think every relationship is different, and this is something you should probably speak to your partner about. Personally I believe it's important to be physically involved and active with your partner no matter how many years you've been together.
|. on Jun 18, 2015 @ 11:09 pm|
I want to agree with pinkskiez, everyone of us, every relationship is different. Never compare and if you're not happy about situation, talk to your partner.
|Not a big deal! on Jun 19, 2015 @ 09:00 am|
You gave your self the answer to why things have slowed down right in your question. You said his work has really picked up. So it doesn't surprise me at all that things have slowed down in the bedroom. The poor guy is just trying to get all the sleep he can get right now because he's working his but off and may also be a stressed out. If he works out side, all this heat we've been having lately will burn a person out a lot faster and will make anyone want to sleep more. Like one of the other ladies said, just wait until you have kids. The last thing on your mind will be having sex and the first thing will be, how much sleep can I get in while the baby/babies are sleeping, or the kids are on a play date, or in school! Trust me its not easy to have a busy job and than add a family on top of it. We're all human and we all have times when we burn out. He'll be fine and so will you as long as you don't start reading things into this that aren't really there. It's all just apart of life as we get older and our life's change. I've been with my guy for 29 years, have two boys and we've had all the ups and down that life brings to a couple. Trust me sex is the last thing on either of our minds! You just have to learn that life changes all the time and sometimes sleep becomes more important than sex. If you have a strong relationship with your partner and you can understand where he's coming from, you'll get over this bump in the road. If you can't handle it, talk to him, tell him how you feel. If you still don't like his answer, or you can't handle that he needs to sleep and not have sex with you everyday, maybe you need to move on.
|Get creative on Jun 19, 2015 @ 02:39 pm|
It's normal for sex to slow down especially if you are both working hard and tired my husband and I started going to many days with out having sex and I wasn't happy about it so instead of waiting for him to tell me he was to tired every night I started waking him up before work .. Made both of our days a lot better and I was happy! And with busy lives sometimes you do really need to schedule sex both of you don't need to know that but if you plan on it and throw something sexy on when he comes Home from work I'm sure you will get his attention ;)
|disrespectful on Jun 19, 2015 @ 05:52 pm|
comment was deleted i have the right to my opinion
|how often on Aug 04, 2015 @ 10:32 am|
It is nothing to panic about and i think in most cases it os normal. Alot of couples get busy and by the end of the day they are physically drained. Just try and set some time aside for you and your bf to have some alone time.
|dont panic on Aug 05, 2015 @ 02:07 pm|
It will decrease over time but thats normal. you can always spice things up
|Waves on Aug 07, 2015 @ 12:34 pm|
I find over time, we go through waves. We've been together 8 years, married almost 6.
Sometimes it's once every week or two, sometimes is 2-3 times in a week.
A lot of it has to do with stress at home or work, or if we've just gone on too many long bike rides lol. We have different energy levels at times too.
Sometimes you just have to put in the effort to doing it even if your partner is tired or vice versa - but participation most of the time is nice too!
It helps keep us connected on a different level, and actually relieves a lot of stress.