How to get over a relationship?


martino
on Sep 08, 2010 @ 01:24 pm

Ok I am sure this has been asked before but...
Its been a year since my girl left me (she changed her cell and stopped returning my emails) so I have no way of contacting her anymore
I know she has moved on, but even though its been a year, I still feel feel the pain and the sadness of the break up like it was yeserday...Have thrown myself into some hobbies, started going back to the gym, but I still miss her
Any advice?
M

 


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Ali de Bold
This too shall pass on Sep 08, 2010 @ 01:56 pm

I'm sorry for your loss. Getting over a breakup can be devastating and there is no pat answer for when or how you can expect to get over her.

Honestly, I think the best way to get over someone is to stop romanticizing the relationship. Even if you're the one that broke it off, it's easy to forget why it didn't work out in the first place. You find yourself remembering only the good times or the best characteristics of that person, but in reality you probably realized towards the end of the relationship that it wasn't quite working out. Whether you guys were fighting a lot or there was infidelity or a deal breaker.. or even if it was as simple as the feelings starting to fade and you loved her more than she loved you. Try to remember that part too. You may realize it wasn't as perfect as you thought and that can help you move on.

You deserve to be in a completely mutual relationship.. Seeing as she completely shut you out from ever contacting her again, this is not the one for you.

Good luck!
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cathy3087
Very True on Sep 08, 2010 @ 02:08 pm

I agree that people often remember only the good times when they are missing someone, so try and remember that it didn't work out for a reason. If you aren't together, then it just wasn't meant to be and find comfort in the fact that there's so many others out there so don't give up!

Just keep busy and eventually time will help

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martino
re advice on Sep 08, 2010 @ 03:38 pm

Thanks ;o),
Yes that is so true, the bottom line is, if you were meant to be together, you would have been able to work things out, relationships often take time to end just as they take time to begin
Martino

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jchang212
It's All About Your Mindset on Sep 09, 2010 @ 03:22 pm

I agree with the other ladies. I've definitely been there. It took me nearly 2 years to get over my ex!

In retrospect, I think the biggest problem was that I was, like Ali mentioned, romanticizing continually about the relationship. I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else and thought that he was the best I was ever gonna get. Because my scope of mind was so narrow, I was blind to the potential and the quality of the other guys around me.

If the same thoughts are going through your head, try to stop yourself, and give the other girls around you a chance. Pay attention to their attributes, and re-analyze what you're really looking for in someone and in a relationship.

Best of luck!!
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vanessa25
smile.... on Sep 13, 2010 @ 12:59 pm

keep yourself busy - go out with the boys!!! do everything you've always wanted to do...have fun...you deserve it (we all do)...live it up boss!!!

as the sayings go: (true as they are)
"everything happens for a reason...you only live once....keep going and don't ever look back...have no regrets...."

though your ex may not be in contact with you - just smile and let it be....she's probably doing that to help you both move on from the break up. but whatever happens, whatever her reason, and especially if you two should ever cross paths, whether it be a good/bad experience, keep your head up. let everyone, including her, see your good, happy, healthy and well!

time will heal....

cheers!


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