on Jul 08, 2012 @ 07:25 pm|
So I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. Everythings been great so far. A few fights here and there but what relationship doesnt have them right? Well as we see its been getting more serious I want to bond with his sisters. I have been for the longest time, but I noticed they have no care for me so i just basically stopped trying. Now they constantly nag to my boyfriend that he doesnt spend any time with them anymore. Saturdays is the only day out of the entire week that I spend with my family (i live with him). I dont want to make him feel like he has to choose between his family and me but i also dislike that they dont make any effort to bond with me. When i do make the effort every once in a while i always get the shitty end of the stick, but the sisters all talk about having girls day out and hanging out in front of me. I dont know what to do anymore. I could care less, but if my boyfriend and I are going to make it then i guess i have to keep on making the effort...any suggestions?
|Group Outings? on Jul 09, 2012 @ 10:43 am|
If they nag him about not spending time with them, then they are probably feeling protective and a bit jealous. Why not arrange for your boyfriend to spend a day with his sisters while you too treat yourself to a little me time or a fun outing with your family or friends?
Also try and arrange for a big group outing with yourself, your bf and his sisters. Get to know them with your boyfriend around and just be friendly and yourself. I am sure if they get to know you and you them, they'll be more comfortable with you. Don't be afraid to ask them out for a girls day either. Maybe they just feel a bit weird approaching you. If all this fails, don't lose too much sleep over it. If you're nice and civil to them, I am sure they will warm up to you eventually. In any case, you aren't dating them. They don't need to love you, your bf does and I am sure he appreciates you trying to get to know his family.