How young is too young to have children?

on Apr 01, 2016 @ 07:32 pm

If I, at 18, married a 25 year old doctor and wanted to have children, and believed myself to be ready, am I still too young?

10 Replies

how young? on Apr 01, 2016 @ 07:36 pm

No not necessarily too young dear. Some people have a different maturity level than others. The mere fact that a man of 25 is ready to settle down with you, should tell you something. You are probably quite the girl with a good head on her shoulders. I say, go ahead be happy.Does it really matter what others think if you two could be happy.

. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 09:55 pm

I got pregnant the first time at 19 and would have given birth at 20 but we miscarried.. Got pregnant again 5 months later and ended up giving birth at 21.. I don't think 18 is too young. I would just make sure you're prepared.. Mentally, emotionally, financially etc.. Make sure your relationship is solid and you qualify for maternity leave if you can.. :)

If you believe you are ready that's all that matters.

. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 10:05 pm

Only you know if you are ready. If you are mentally, emotionally and financially prepared and want a child and have a supportive hubby, then you do what is best for you.

. on Apr 01, 2016 @ 11:21 pm

If you feel you are ready then go for it. It's your life.

love on Apr 02, 2016 @ 12:50 am

I hope you guys are super happy together

I don't think you're too young.... but he's 25, so in his residency...he'll be gone all the time. As an 18 year old...will you be ok with being home all the time with the kids?

Do what makes you happy... on Apr 02, 2016 @ 08:08 am

If he makes you happy, do what you like...

I evolved so much between 19 and 24-25 years old, and I was a pretty mature 19 year old (moved 500km away from home at 18, and lived without assistance from my parents - I never went back).

If I had settled down at that age, I would of missed so much, and know I would of been resentful for not being able to be free to get to know who I am during that crucial learning period.

My co-worker (who calls everyone SO OLD) got married at 22, baby 6 months later, and now that she is back from maternity leave, she has some regrets. She does not feel she spends enough time with her husband that they have become virtual strangers now. I do encourage her to grab a baby sitter and go out on dates to retain the connection they had. I don`t like seeing her unhappy.

I`m one for moving in first for a test ride. I feel you REALLY get to know a person once you live together. At least it`s not legally binding!

I may be in the minority here.. on Apr 02, 2016 @ 12:47 pm

Personally I would wait. Make sure your relationship is solid and then move in together. Things going great? Get married. Work on buiding your careers and strengthening your relationship and then consider kids.

. on Apr 02, 2016 @ 01:44 pm

If you both really feel ready for it and want to have children then I would say you're not too young. Only you two know what is right for you and your relationship. Not everyone is going to feel the same about having kids at certain ages. Just make sure you both are 100% ready for this next step because this is a huge step for any relationship.

. on Apr 02, 2016 @ 05:10 pm

I agree with what some people have said, it is all about maturity level. Some people in their late 20s may be older and still not ready to be parents. If you two are financially stable, that makes a huge difference as well. My advice would be to wait a little while, even if you are both ready, in order to let your relationship grow some more, have some time together to grow as a couple and just enjoy each other before kids. I got married a month after I turnd 18 and gave birth to our son the day after our 3rd anniversary. Our son is very fussy and the first few months put a huge strain on our relationship but since we were so close and had a few years of marriage to fall back on, we have worked through it and are learning to desl with the stress better and take care of each other as we take care of baby.

. on Apr 02, 2016 @ 06:21 pm

If you are asking this question, you are too young.

You have all the time in the world! Wait until there is no question in your mind as to whether the time is right.

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