on Aug 07, 2016 @ 04:35 pm|
Lately my husband has been playing a mobile phone game (not Pokemon go) all day, even in front of our 18 month daughter. He always likes playing online games, but this game involves playing with other online users so he can't stop playing the game as easily as before. I am not very happy with this coz I think it sets a very bad role model for our little one.
Today during lunchtime he's playing the game again and I asked him when he would stop but he replied "until I switch to Pokemon go". Quite disappointed with his answer, our conversation ended. Though he later said it's just a joke.
I always know that he's an online game player. But before I married him, I could not imagine it would hurt our relationship.
The other night I complained about it. I very much hated to have pillow talk until he finishes playing games at midnight, but he said I'm always nagging, he would feel much bothered if he's not playing the game. I feel a bit upset for being a nagging wife. Maybe I'm part of the problem too...
What should I do?..
|. on Aug 07, 2016 @ 06:24 pm|
I think you should talk to him seriously about it during a time when he's not tired and stressed.
Explain how you understand that the game helps him destress and how he's tired and so it's easy to go to the game, but that you'd like more quality time with him and for him to spend more time with your daughter rather than on his phone. Phrase it more as a 'phone' issue than a game issue as overuse of mobile phones is a big problem in modern relationships and an easy pitfall to get into!
Try and use 'I' statements without being accusatory, such as 'I feel like I can't communicate with you well when I feel you are on the phone a lot.' Just try and be honest with your feelings and talk things out.
Good luck! *hugs*
|anonymous on Aug 07, 2016 @ 06:42 pm|
I have a friend whose story is very much the same as yours. Also, some guys get carried away with football, hockey etc. and sometimes it can cause hard feelings in a relationship.On she other side of the coin, lots of husbands are left alonewhen their wives play bingo three and four times a week.It is difficult when other things take up so much of one's time. Hope it all works out for you.
|Been there on Aug 08, 2016 @ 12:37 am|
I've been married to a gamer for 16 years and it's not always easy to deal with. However, my husband has a stressful job and after he explained to me that playing helps him relieve some of the stress, I accepted it. He doesn't do drugs or drink alcohol like most of his coworkers. If his playing starts getting out of control, (like not spending time with the kids etc.), I talk to him about it. I don't get upset, I just explain to him how I'm feeling. Sometimes he just needs to know how his playing affects our lives. His best friend, also an online gamer, and his wife have an agreement that he will only play during certain hours and then the rest of the time is spent spending quality time with her and the kids. I would try just talking to him about it when you are not upset and when he is not playing. I think the biggest thing I had to learn was that I was the one that needed to compromise too!
|Thank you for the advice on Aug 08, 2016 @ 02:43 am|
Thank you so much for the constructive advice. I guess the hardest part is not to get upset, stay calm and talk things out. I will try my best. It's hard.