I am so frustrated

on Apr 19, 2016 @ 10:01 pm

I have been in a bad relationship for so many years I am disrespected and put down and I can't do anything I am trapped. It is really complicated we have been together since being teens and everytime we disagree I am treated like crap sworn at threatened and I know just leave right not so simple I have tried in the past and it is worse the authorities not much help they can charge him for what threats then they get out in a second and are even more mad and so u get a restraining order to realize wow that isn't any type of protection just so frustrated right now

11 Replies

. on Apr 19, 2016 @ 10:11 pm

What a horrible situation! All I can do is say that we at Chickadvisor are here for you and feel free to vent! But it's really important that you contact an organisation close to you for domestic abuse as you need help and coping mechanisms and they'll be able to help you out with that.

Stay safe <3

. on Apr 19, 2016 @ 10:38 pm

That is horrible. Can you sit down and talk to a police officer at the station? Ask them what your options are and if they have a list of anyone you can get help from? Contact your local women's shelter when he is not around you and I'm sure they could point you in the right direction. You deserve to be respected and safe. Please know, there are organizations out there to help women in your situation.

Stay safe and we are Chick Advisor are always here to listen.

. on Apr 20, 2016 @ 12:22 am

I agree with the ladies above. Your local women's shelter should have experience in dealing with these situations and can suggest a plan or strategy to help you get out of the toxic relationship. I'm sorry the authorities haven't been of much help. Unfortunately, they have a protocol to follow and depending on the situation, they can't/won't do much. Your best bet is to speak with someone at the shelter or even a doctor/therapist if you need to.

Most importantly, please confide in your family or a good friend if you haven't already done so. Opening up to them can help you find solutions as well as offering you the protection you may need. I pray that you stay safe and that you find a way out of this. You don't deserve to be treated this way.


. on Apr 20, 2016 @ 07:58 am

I agree with the ladies above, great advice all around. Please stay safe...and we're always here to listen.

. on Apr 20, 2016 @ 09:47 am

absolutely contact a shelter. They have heard this story many times, and are able to help you in complete confidence. They will not do anything to increase the risk of violence, and will help you to find yourself in a much better situation. You deserve better.

. on Apr 20, 2016 @ 06:23 pm

I was in a relationship with my abusive ex-boyfriend for four years before leaving. I understand how you are feeling. Message me if you need someone to listen or empathize. And definitely, listen to the chicks before me and contact a shelter or another safe place where you can get away from this person. There is a better life out there for you, and someone will love you right once you leave this. Much love to you <3 Be safe.

. on Apr 20, 2016 @ 10:35 pm

You deserve only the best and deserve to be treated like a queen. Come up with a plan to leave and never look back. It will just get worse my dear and there are many wonderful organizations out there to help. If you have family around maybe they can hep too.

Info for all Chicks on Apr 20, 2016 @ 11:12 pm

To all.
I just want you to tuck this away under your hat for you or for anyone you think it might help.
This is a quick guide to what you might be searching for - as a victim, a survivor, an advocate, a healer, a friend.

You will find Provincial and National organizations which will help you out of abusive shituations. Yes, ladies, the "H" is there on purpose... I'm a survivor and I get it..
There are also links where chicks can get emergency, legal, health, wellness and every other thing a woman could possibly need help with in this day and age (even a little section on the history of Canadian women!) Click below:

YWCACanada.ca ~ PROGRAMS - RESOURCE CENTRE - Resources ~ Resource Subject Areas

. on Apr 20, 2016 @ 11:27 pm

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. You are not alone. The ladies above have provided really good advice and helpful info. Please don't hesitate to get help.

Help on Apr 20, 2016 @ 11:51 pm

You should get out, I think. Well, actually, I think you have two choices: either leave, or make things better by seeing if he is willing to get the help he needs (ie couselling). If he is willing to get help, you might want to consider staying. If he is not willing to get help, you should leave. I know allllll about this, having spent many years in a troublesome relationship....now, to make a long story short, my partner of 6 years had addiction problems, and mental health issues, and I chose to stick by him. After many years, he finally admitted his issues and got help. For the past 6 months, he has been doing wonderfully. But it took a lot of work. I waited for 5.5 years for this. For me, it was the right choice, and it was worth it, for absolutely sure. But everyone's situaiton is different. For you, it might be right to leave. Perhaps another thing you could do, to help you see more clearly, is to talk to a cousellor yourself - they can advice you better than anyone here can, as they are professionals.

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