on May 19, 2013 @ 03:26 pm|
I met my ex online and we clicked instantly, I have never felt that way about a guy it was instant attraction. We had been together 9 months and I thought everything was amazing but then this past Thursday he broke up with me and I am devastated, I have never felt this hurt before. He said he doesn't see it working in the long run and that he couldn't ever marry me and that killed me. He made me so happy and his family would say I made him so happy, so why mall the sudden did he change his mind! He was fine last week. We also live an hour apart and only got to see each other on weekends but he said that wasn't really an issue...idk what to do anymore I can't handle this.
|It'll get better. on May 22, 2013 @ 08:38 pm|
I know it's hard when someone dumps you, especially out of the blue, and even more if you seriously thought that was going to be "it" for you. All I can say is, be strong and things will get better!
In the end, it's the best thing for both of you. If you really love him you'd want him to be happy, and if he wasn't happy with you then don't you think he deserves to find someone he is happy with? And then the more important part: don't YOU think YOU deserve someone who loves you back just as much? It's never easy to say goodbye to someone you're not ready to let go, but these things happen, and one day it won't suck as much. In the scheme of your whole life 9 months is just a blip, so remember the good times but try not to dwell on what you could have done differently or why you 'weren't good enough' and other dangerous thought patterns. Be glad he realized he wasn't happy now, instead of a year from now or even 10 years from now.
Best of luck and stay strong <3
|Thank you on May 22, 2013 @ 09:57 pm|
Thanks for writing! I hope one day this pain will go away as I don't want to cry anymore. Everything reminds me of him and I can't stop wondering if he misses me or is in pain at all. I got some books to help me through, this is just the roughest break up I've ever gone through.
|Let him go on May 23, 2013 @ 09:30 am|
I know this may not be what you want to hear but if he couldn't see you together in the long run, then he did you a favour by breaking things off. If he had stayed with you, you would have just ended up resenting each other and no one would be happy. Think of it this way, he's let you go so you can find someone who better suits you and who can give you want you want.
Ali de Bold
|The pain will go away on May 23, 2013 @ 12:48 pm|
I know it feels absolutely horrible right now and it's probably all you can think about, but that will fade. You will get to a place where this doesn't upset you anymore and you can move on from this. Trust me, we've all been there!!!
Whatever you do, don't chase after him. It's natural to want answers and to want to talk to him about the reasons why but if you chase him, it will only push him further away. You need to go cold turkey and focus exclusively on getting yourself through this tough part.
The fact that he said he doesn't see himself marrying you means he did you a favour by ending the relationship. If marriage is something you wanted, can you imagine if this dragged on for another 5 years only to end up in this position? I know girls who found themselves in exactly that position and they were really upset to have to start dating from scratch at an age where they pictured themselves being married with kids.
Do things that make you feel happy and healthy. Eat well, get lots of sleep and spend time with friends and family that build you up. Do things that make you feel better like getting a pedicure, a massage or going outside for some exercise. These might sound like trivial activities but your heart has just taken a beating and you need to create some positive moments for yourself.
Summer is the best time to be sociable and spend time with your friends or meet new ones. You will get through this and be better than ever for it. Big hugs! xoxo
|Starting to feel a little better on May 23, 2013 @ 03:24 pm|
I haven't talked to him since Sunday so that's been tough to constantly wonder if he misses me and stuff but I just keep trying to tell myself that its his loss...I'm trucking along slowly but trying to stay positive! Thanks for the comments it helps a lot
Ali de Bold
|Good Girl! on May 23, 2013 @ 04:23 pm|
Glad to hear it. It sounds like you have the right attitude. :)
|Blah on May 26, 2013 @ 06:58 pm|
So I have been feeling a little better but I still miss him like crazy and I think I'm driving everyone nuts talking about my breakup, I just want this to go away so I can find the real o e for me....arg lol